Mines pretty tame, but my exs ex husband was obsessed with her and would not leave her alone

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    There was a dude in a local music scene who was picking up high-school girls in his late 20s. Eventually some sort of mystery thing happened to his car. Nobody knows what happened because nobody was there.

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    CW abuse

    There was a pretty bad case in my high school, happened to a friend of a friend. She broke up with a guy who had anger issues and was just generally crappy. Rich dude, extremely spoiled and wasn’t used to being told no. He stalked her and would harass her by rolling up to her house at any time of the day, he’d scream at her in school, etc. The year after they broke up she had to get the school to place him in a separate group for her safety. But the guy had a family connection to the school administration (private school) and he managed to get that measure overturned and had one more year to harass her.

    Toward the end of that year he got into a huge fight with her in the women’s bathroom. Gave her a black eye and broke a stall. He still was not expelled. My school had expelled two boys for getting into a brief fight the year prior, but this human garbage beating his ex in the lady’s room and breaking a stall got him a slap on the wrist. Extremely rotten school.

    I think she did eventually get a restraining order on him around the time she went to uni, they went to the same local uni so she was still in a bit of a bad situation.

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      Yeah pal don’t worry that head of yours about it. I suppose it’s a lot easier when I’m not a women to share this kind of stuff. For someone who went through it it’s probably much harder

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    After finding out I liked this girl but got rejected, a guy I knew revealed he also had feelings for her, but he “didn’t care anymore.” Yet, every conversation we had he would bring her up, talk abut hot she was and her tight clothes, and in the next sentence get very angry about her being a dick to him, then back to talking about her body.

    He’s also this weird libertarian. Constantly talks about Joe Rogan and other dorks. He complains about “liberal third wave feminist bitches” on our campus who “only care about onlyfans and making men feel bad” (I have never once encountered a girl like this on campus lol). He also says he lies about his political beliefs with girls because “these college liberals only care about marxism.” None of that ever works - when he does succeed in getting dates, it’s because they don’t remotely talk about politics, and he would get ghosted because he’s clingy, hyper defensive, insulting, and/or politically repulsive (usually he somehow reveals his anti abortion stance despite wanting casual sex and hating sluts, but only when they don’t sleep with him). He’a not a bad looking guy, but he gets very angry when girls ghost him or outright reject him. Despite this, he never reflects on anything unless I explicitly point it out, and even then the next time we talk, he complains about the same problems with no indication he tried to be normal lol

    Unrelated person, and This part is straight up sexual assault and not just “creeping.” I also heard from a few veteran employees at the school that there were a couple of rape cases in their department. They didn’t expel the guy and covered everything up and settled out of court. I don’t believe he had any connections, but he was a serial rapist wanted in several states, so I guess that’s that bad of PR was why they covered it up. But still, he wasn’t expelled.

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        I absolutely hated him lol. The thing I hated the most is that he was one of the few guys who I was able to talk about anything with, but I knew it wouldn’t last because he was stubborn and I didn’t want to spend our relationship being his therapist and correcting him. People can be reeducated, but I’m trying to form relationships, not fix people lol. I ghosted him after the semester lol

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    I was in love with this girl for a bit in highschool. I’m kinda glad i was too fucked up to really land a relationship, there was a fleeting moment when I might’ve had something with her, but my Gender shit was out of control dysfunctional back then, and any romantic partner I might’ve landed would’ve been dealing with that directly, and I was just too immature besides. I wasn’t the creep though.

    Instead I became a fairly close friend to her, and got to watch her boyfriend at the time gaslight and mentally abuse her. It escalated to it inducing an attempted suicide that landed her in the hospital for several months and almost delayed her graduation. She tried to leave him, and he wouldn’t let her. It got around he had a sadist streak in his intimacy as well, which was actively making things worse for my friend.

    It escalated to a point where several nobodies in particular who considered her a friend, and boyfriends of said - felt they had no real choice but to have him go nowhere in particular under the guise of hanging out, where he was given a very, very clear message about what he was to do, and how he was to comport himself - away from her, forever - lest really interesting things happen to him.

    He wasn’t dumb, he listened, and fucked off. As far as I know he grew the fuck up and has a functional family now - quite the turn around i guess, i’m glad he was smart enough to go down a road where that was possible.

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      As far as I know he grew the fuck up and has a functional family now - quite the turn around i guess, i’m glad he was smart enough to go down a road where that was possible.

      I hate say it, but some people grow up thinking they’re invincible and need an extremely hard (painful) reality check to bring them back down to Earth with the rest of us.

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    When I was a freshman in high school (14), this senior (18/19) had a crush on me that I was oblivious to until we were walking home together and he grabbed me and wouldn’t let go until I started yelling and clawing at him so hard my nails bent back. Even then I think the only reason he let go is because a group of 3 boy were like 100 feet away and turned around when I started yelling.

    It was pretty scary because if he did that like 5 minutes later we wouldve been in this pretty secluded area where sound didnt carry well scared

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    My coworker is 30 years old and had to be talked to for not taking no for an answer when my 19 year old coworker kept shutting him down.

    Borderline pedophile. Another of my coworkers has told him to his face he gives off school shooter vibes, which he absolutely does.

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    My father was a pervert towards my sisters, not only saying questionable sexual-related things but also on multiple occasions having very questionable physical contact with them (mostly this past year, though they have since told us that this sort of thing had happened earlier too on infrequent occasions, including when they were very young (they are still underage)). I don’t know the full details of this (I am unaware, for example, if anything happened that could be considered rape), and I was only aware of this after our mother became aware of it too, but we have cut contact with him when this came to light earlier this year; and given how deep a hole he’s dug for himself financially speaking (which also escalated to a breaking point this year) in the years following my parents’ separation, I don’t doubt that he is having the shitty time he deserves. I guess a slightly amusing thing in retrospect (in the fucked up way that any bit of this could even attempt being amusing) is that I remember him saying many years ago that when he was younger he considered becoming a catholic priest (which I always found strange since he isn’t religious, at least he wasn’t in the time I’ve been alive).

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    Lonnnnnnng time ago there was a teacher I worked with, and he hooked up with a student. She was 18, so it was “legal”, although he did get sacked. Laws and norms have changed a lot in the past 20+ years, nowadays he would probably face more legal consequences.

    I’m randomly look at his LinkedIn once in a while. Nowadays he’s only teaching adults, despite having credentials to teach kids. I’m assuming that you can’t go into a school after that.

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        If you listen to really old teachers and staffroom gossip, that shit was really common and even accepted 30+ years ago. Like teachers would marry their former students.

        This is 100% hearsay, so don’t @ me if it’s bullshit.

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          my literature/history teacher did this in the early 2000s. repeatedly. a divorced man dating 17 year olds.

          everyone knew, no one did anything.

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            I like to think that things are a lot better now, because I never see this. But who knows. I also don’t know that the school system culture is like in your area.

            The worst-worst I’ve seen now is a male teacher asking too personal questions. Still bad, but not anywhere near the level of having a relationship with them.

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      My high school history teacher once told the story of how she and her husband (another high school history teacher who was one of her teachers) “started dating when she graduated” and I was like “yeah, after… I bet…”

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        This was a problem back in the day. Like “we just started dating after she graduated”. Nowadays it’s a big no no, it’s just assume that the teacher, at best was grooming her when she was in his care.

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    in the town i grew up in i can think of around 10 people that went on to become rapists. this is close to doxxing but i have had two (former) best friends separately prey on the same underaged girl, as in “barely pubescent”. the second one married her.

    unfortunately none of these worthless monsters are dead yet to my knowledge.