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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • I wish you the best of luck. You may have to shop around for therapists. Online or in person shouldn’t make a huge difference, it’s more about finding one you click with.

    I don’t have any specific advice for the likes thing, but I’ll share my experience as a possible explanation. I am pretty shit at verbal affirmations. Like “I’m dating you and kissing and cuddling you of course I don’t need to tell you you’re pretty” which is obviously THE WRONG ANSWER but it took some effort for me to even realize that. Learning each other’s love languages may also help you two communicate.




  • Communicate! If something he does makes you feel bad, the worst thing you can do is bottle it up until it explodes. Tell him how it makes you feel straight up. Don’t say “stop following insta skanks if you love me,” say something like “it makes me feel insecure when you like photos of women that don’t look like me.” Basically tell him what you told us.

    The fact that he was dming some insta girl is (to me personally as a man) kind of weird, but the fact that he stopped when he started talking to you is a good sign.

    Lastly, you can almost certainly benefit from individual therapy. This is not me calling you crazy. I had trouble getting close to my now girlfriend due to previous relationship issues. Therapy helped me process those feelings and also understand the importance of communication.