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    2 months ago

    Im betting on the fact that humans have baked in altruism. We want to help each other. As a kid I got stuck in the forrest with my dirt bike and a gnarly looking guy helped me get home with his truck. It was a scary experience and it was a risk. I think most people are basically good. Men just have the strength to act on it when they are bad people.

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        2 months ago

        No I haven’t. But I have been sexually assaulted. I know from first hand experience how awful men can be. And I’d still pick a strange man over a bear to be stuck in the woods with. You can’t reason with a bear. You cant plead for your life. It will pin you to the ground and eat you alive ass-first. I’d rather be raped and shot or strangled if it came to that. But you do you.

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            2 months ago

            Hey I’m just comparing outcomes. Is a person ‘wrong’ for comitting suicide? No. That’s their call. If the prospect of choosing ‘man’ is so terrifying that they must bear, that is sad but it makes sense.

            I’m a big ugly dude. I can tell I give most women the creeps. When I’m walking around my neightborhood, I cross to the opposite side of the street whenever I pass women. I literally go out of my way to communicate to women I’m not interested in hurting them.

            Despite efforts like that, I’ve been wrongfully accused of sexual assault while working in a workers comp office. Getting grilled by an angry female detective was terrifying and humiliating. I could have gone on the list just because some idiot was mad about their case outcome.

            I’m not saying “I’m just as scared of you as you are of me” But I’m fucking terrified of women. It sucks having to take this form. Does it suck as much as being a vulnerable women? Not my place to say.

            Maybe I still don’t get it. I dont know. But it seems like this man/bear exercise is inflammitory hyperbole designed to raise to awareness about how women feel about men - something I feel I’ve been made aware of by my own experiences.

            If you still think I dont get it, feel free to spell it out for me. I’m just a big dumb guy after all.