I tried typing this into Google, but it returned 20 pages of “My wife gained weight and I don’t love her. How can I convince her to start an eating disorder?” FFS the West.
Comrades, I wish to fuck that my gf gaining a few kilos was even in my top ten list of problems right now. I tell her that’s she’s fine. We’re getting older, and we both put on a few kilos. I try to be supportive, and just let her feel comfortable with the new reality. It’s like a major stressor for her. I guess some of her workmates and relatives have made comments. I tell her to tell those people to tell me. What kind of person comments on another person’s appearance?
Just a final rant. Both me and me gf work sorta stressful office jobs, and we both end up doing a lot of overtime. Stress, anxiety, and a lack of time contribute to a less than ideal health situation. I know IRL a few venture capitalist types that spend hours in the gym everyday, but they’re the worst humans imaginable. My gf comes from a working class background, and she’s one of the kindest people I know. I don’t mean to shame anyone that loves the gym, but spending adequate time on fitness isn’t super easy in late stage capitalism.
Anyhow, if any of you comment on anyone’s weight ever, I will literally claw your face.
a few months ago i had pneumonia. i’m young and relatively healthy, so there was no real danger or whatever, but i completely stopped eating, i just wasn’t hungry in the slightest. i had maybe 3 meals over the course of two weeks and couldn’t finish them.
when i told my dad that, his response was “well, you must have lost some weight!” as a positive thing. genuine fucking insanity. the thing that really gets me is that there is a 0% chance anyone would EVER say that shit if i were amab. like, don’t get me wrong, i’m sure this stuff effects everyone to a degree, but so much of it is pure fucking sexism
i’m sorry i dont have any advice for you other than “overthrow the patriarchy” comrade, but honestly knowing that this shit it baseless misogynistic nonsense and that i’m in the exact same boat as every woman on earth has always helped me. you see women of all sizes being subjected to this shit, and it just makes it so clear that its not actually about size or health or whatever, its about condemning women for daring to be real living biological lifeforms rather than purely aesthetic 2D tradwives.