Honestly I think a lot of these people raised their kids under the “my house, my rules” mantra where they tied their authority to their home out of laziness and expedience, basically choosing rather than explaining themselves to their kids, instead just quashing any opportunity for a conversation (that in many cases may have revealed how poorly thought out their beliefs were) based on, of all things, economics.
Basically: I work and earn the money in this dynamic, so because of that, I’m right and your opinions don’t matter.
Shock of all shocks when kids raised with that noise grow up, enter the work force, and get a place of their own, they now remember that shit and make the short step of logic from “my house my rules” to “I’m not in your house anymore, I’m not following your rules, and you have to respect that because you have no other choice”.
I’ve heard stories of this getting so bad that basically the parents of adult children still were trying to impose their politics and ideology on their adult children when they came to visit…then being all surprised Pikachu and playing the victim when… spoiler alert…their kids quit visiting.
Anecdotally i can see the validity. My sister and I moved multiple states away from our parents.
My city def has a lot of young 30+ meetups. And 90% of them has a story about them moving as far as possible because family/parent drama.
Honestly I think a lot of these people raised their kids under the “my house, my rules” mantra where they tied their authority to their home out of laziness and expedience, basically choosing rather than explaining themselves to their kids, instead just quashing any opportunity for a conversation (that in many cases may have revealed how poorly thought out their beliefs were) based on, of all things, economics.
Basically: I work and earn the money in this dynamic, so because of that, I’m right and your opinions don’t matter.
Shock of all shocks when kids raised with that noise grow up, enter the work force, and get a place of their own, they now remember that shit and make the short step of logic from “my house my rules” to “I’m not in your house anymore, I’m not following your rules, and you have to respect that because you have no other choice”.
I’ve heard stories of this getting so bad that basically the parents of adult children still were trying to impose their politics and ideology on their adult children when they came to visit…then being all surprised Pikachu and playing the victim when… spoiler alert…their kids quit visiting.