I am in a situation where, all my friends are often too busy, so I often spend weeks, here in college, without talking to another soul. To make things worse, I am very shy, and I can stutter a lot in voice calls. And thus, I am often too scared to try and message my online friends (I have only about 5, and they are the first friends I ever made in life, and I only befriended them last year), to ask them if they can hang out. I did once, but I need time to work up the courage again to ask for a hang out.
So anyways, what is it that you do, to occupy your time, when you spend most of your days with nobody to talk to? And you yourself are often busy with things in life?
smoke weed and read books, get that enlightenment
I can’t get weed in my state. Plus I have little time to recreationally read, what with TWO exams this week.
Get into running or play an instrument? Personally post-college I spend a lot of time either working or doing praxis stuff, so the idea of an open weekend sounds heavenly.
Running is great, especially if you got a couple spare hours. The music thing is if you feel like you got a LOT of spare time.
Seconding musical instrument. Get on Facebook marketplace and buy a used electric guitar/bass on the cheap and get a headphone amp. Probably the easiest and cheapest way to play without annoying neighbors (assuming a dorm or near-campus shitty apartment building situation).
Go on romantic dates, if you can arrange them - college is a good time for this since lots of people are just as uncertain as you are. Dating is a bit of a numbers game to find someone by chance that you really vibe with.
Play a good video game
Go to a bouldering gym (don’t break your ankle) or BJJ class, they’re usually pretty bumping on those nights
Go on romantic dates, if you can
I have never been on a date. Plus I am Asexual, something I know for sure, would be a turn off for most people anyways. Not to mention I don’t even know how to ask someone to be my friend, much less how to tell if I am even capable of romantic attraction.
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Hobby programming or electronics projects?
I suggest joining a social or sports club. When i moved to a new city several years ago, i did not know anyone here. One of the first things i did was join a slow pitch softball league. I met a really great group, some of which are still my friends years later, and opened doors for all kinds of events and social gatherings.
To add to this, Meetup.com can be helpful for finding events near you, at least if you’re near a city. I know the struggle to have a wide social friend network can feel very hard in the beginning, but it’s nice to have other people to rely on.
I don’t suggest joining a local or or vegan scene just for the social connections, but it can help branch out to like minded people.
