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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • I wouldn’t even guess at the statistics of nutritional education, but I would believe you that most people don’t know about algae oil. What I’m saying is that there exist a significant number of people who do know about the inherent cruelty of factory farming, and the availability of cruelty-free alternatives, and they still won’t change their habits or consumption. It’s not a big secret anymore, and the internet exists to provide all information to anyone who wants it.

    It’s like assuming Americans use the imperial measurements because they don’t know about metric. Sure, many Americans don’t know the metric system, but just learning it exists and understanding the advantages doesn’t compel Americans to switch.

    Going vegan is a disruption. At a minimum, it means changing the groceries you buy. It means reading ingredients and scanning menus at all your favorite restaurants. It means depriving yourself of some previous enjoyment.

    There are many people who don’t know the extent of cruelty. There are many people who are unaware of their options. And there are many people who, upon learning these things, immediately change their consumption behaviors because the thought of enjoying food or products that come from suffering is abhorrent. For OP, just knowing that suffering is not required for survival is enough motivation to stop consuming animal products. My point is that it is a mistake to assume that the same knowledge would move the needle for most people.

    I said I don’t want to guess at statistics, but let’s do a thought experiment. Imagine you went to a barbeque and told everyone standing around that you had a video showing how the animals people are eating are treated. How do you suppose people would react to you offering to show them that video? How many would watch it? How many would react with anger and disgust because they already know what’s in the video? How many of them would trade their burger for a veggie patty?

    My point is, it’s not that they don’t know. People know. People don’t want to think about it. And yes, share the info and maybe a few more people stop eating meat. I’m not suggesting that you or OP shouldn’t share information. All I’m saying is that if you expect it to be enough, you’re setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment.





  • I always ask, but some people feel greedy or selfish if they tell you what they want. Plus, it’s nice to have someone else think about you and your needs and desires, and then put some effort into providing that for you.

    Like if I said, “I want fancy jewelry,” that would feel petty and bratty. If my friend gave me a gift and said “I found this, and I thought it would fit your style and look great on you,” that is going to make me feel good about receiving it and about our relationship.

    It’s always OK to ask, but it’s not OK to insist they tell you. Demanding an answer is like saying, “I don’t care enough about you to learn and remember your preferences.”

    That said, there are things I won’t buy my wife because her preferences are too mysterious. I’ll pick two seemingly identical handbags, same dimensions, material, color combinations, etc, and she will determine that one is gorgeous and the other is shit. It’s a running joke with us that I’m hopelessly obtuse when it comes to style, and she’s far too capricious in matters of taste to predict what she will like. She loves handbags, and I support her getting whatever purses and bags she likes when she sees them.

    Likewise, she doesn’t buy me techie stuff or tools.





  • I really think this is the wrong framing for progressives. You’re protesting a narcissist troll with an ego so massive it affects the passage of time. He’s not styling himself as a king, so he can plausibly reject the concept on its face, and he probably enjoys the warm, itchy feeling it creates in his butt thinking about all the people calling him a king. So he gets to wriggle in his chair with a wry smile and say “I never said ‘King Trump’, but you go ahead.” His supporters will revel in your frustration, because they know you’re not willing to match their level of chaos.

    You’re dealing with a narcissist. There’s no shame or logic or reasoning that will convince him or his followers to abandon their power. We need to take it from them.


  • Regarding his disappointment, there are bigger and more complicated cubes. He can also be challenged to create patterns in the cube, like you mess up a cube and he has to match the randomness you created. That’s a fun way to keep practicing those cube skills without the monotony of solving the same puzzle over and over.