Every relationship is different, so I can’t speak to your situation and this may not be the root cause. This isn’t specifically for Darkmoon, but for anyone feeling the same way.

I’m male and my wife has a robust social network where I am included in some of their conversations. Most of her female friends are low-key angry at their husbands and resent how much work they (wives) do that goes unnoticed.

Make sure you are helping out in the home: obvious things like cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry; but also kiddo maintenance like knowing what homework is needed, what they need to wear on Tuesday for spirit day, when the next dentist appointment is (or making it), etc; social maintenance like planning trips to grandparents, finding a babysitter for date night (and planning it), preparing for parties.

Take some of that work off her and she’ll have more energy for you.

I 100% clicked on that link expecting it to be a TVTropes rabbit hole… I’m actually a little disappointed.

Not OP, but this is a principle thing. We should not have to change our behavior to make the computers work for us. They are unthinking, unfeeling tools, despite anyone’s claims around “AI”. They change for us.

That runs into a problem of tech literacy, though. If the companies running the tech we use don’t have incentive to make it work better, you have to know how to do it yourself and that’s generally not trivial. If I were OP, I’d look into self-hosted home automation. There’s some overhead and tinkering required, but the customization and privacy gains are likely worth it.

Side note. Anyone have any knowledge of a Google Home Mini repurpose? I’m more of a software guy, and have no clue if or how I can make the hardware mine. I’ve been slowly removing my reliance on google products lately. I use it mostly as a speaker, though, so worst case is it ends up as e-waste.

I DESPISE AI in fast food restaurants… as well as just about everywhere else… but in fast food it really pisses me off.

I crave salty trash food every once in a while, but when my local Taco Bell greeted me with an obviously AI drive-thru, I just drove away and never came back.

Fast food and retail were the places you went to get your first job with no experience or school necessary. Using AI to ‘take their jobs’ in the pursuit of ‘efficiency’ is just adding velocity to our plunge into dystopia. I mean no disrespect to those working those currently jobs, though, as the ‘were’ in that sentence is carrying a lot and the article is right that the jobs are stressful and relentless, and it angers me that your livelihood is yet again being threatened by corporate greed.

If there were compensating factors, like UBI, free higher education and better worker protections, then sure, let’s let “ai” take over the things that we don’t want to do… but I don’t think we’re going in that direction.

My local one changed the play place into a conference room. That’s where adults have fun… right?

The McDonalds near me recently clobbered their tiny playplace and turned it into a … conference room/center?

About the only time I went there was when I need a place for my kiddos to spend some energy on a rainy day at like 8am, before other things opened. I was happy to buy a coffee and biscuit for myself and maybe a treat for them to pay for my occupancy.

Now, though, and I know I wasn’t a giant source of income, they have lost my custom and I just can’t see how any real business would ever run a meeting in a McDonalds conference room, so it just seems like a dumb move.

Maybe they want to discourage parents bringing their children? That also seems pretty stupid.

Slight modification… Billionaires deserve to live, but they didn’t deserve to be billionaires. There is no path to that much wealth that doesn’t involve increasing someone else’s suffering.

Fair enough. I haven’t read it, but I knew that the term is not new and figured out where it originated. My understanding of it was a neutral term that became slang.

I’m tired of the right-wing taking ownership of terms/icons/etc and wanted to push back.

In the service of not bringing politics where it isn’t wanted, I’ll stop there.

I will continue to grok things, despite Heinlein’s positions or elon’s chatbot.

“Grok” way predates xitter and predates elon himself by a decade. It was coined by Heinlein in ‘Stranger in a Strange Land’ and means ‘to understand fully’.

Just because some ass-hat uses a word doesn’t immediately give it a negative connotation.

I’ll repeat and elaborate on something I said a few times before the election. As a preface, I fully understand your desire to not just ‘choose the lesser evil’, but the timing of your (the collective you, all the people who either sat out the election or, worse, convinced others to sit out) decision to make a stand is the part I take offense to.

The time to choose the lesser evil is when you have only those two choices and neither are good. You did indeed have a third choice, but that third choice was to walk away and potentially let the greater evil win – which it did. In that way, you are partially responsible for that greater evil succeeding. Had you (collectively) voted for the lesser evil, we would not be slashing federal staffing, waging cold trade wars, deporting people, and letting several idiotic and vengeful toddlers run this country into the ground right now.

The time to take your stand is actually, RIGHT NOW. If you are not engaged in trying to field a better candidate, then you are letting the “system” drive instead, and it will continue to present democratic leadership that is not aligned with your beliefs. You alone probably can’t make any significant impact, unless you happen to be wealthy and have tons of free time and want to go run for office. However, if all those people who were ‘BoTh SiDeS!’-ing in October would come back and continue to hammer on the Democratic party to put forth candidates that reflect their values, we might actually get somewhere.

The way to do this is simple, but hard:

1. Identify your local, precinct, Democratic party organization.
2. Join it.
3. (hard part) Engage and promote your values.

Either find candidates or run for offices. Failing that --which I’d admit is challenging; public service is not lucrative and is also very unstable, which is why we generally see already-rich old people in those positions – become an advocate for your policies and rise up through precinct, district and state to reach the national stage.

If you are not working on those goals, Shut the fuck up and vote for the lesser evil. You are not helping anyone by posting here.

I’ve done step 2. My values mostly align with my precinct Democrats, and I helped with Get-Out-The-Vote initiatives in my area. What did you do to prevent fascism?

Still here, not going to appologize, I stand by my statement, both of them are facist, …

I’d also like to point you to Wikipedia’s article on Fascism and see if you can provide a few examples of where Kamala Harris espoused those particular values. For each item in that first paragraph, I could quickly find you something where trump tells you that’s him. A lie will fly around the whole world while the truth is getting its boots on, though, and maybe someone else can take over if you need examples and can’t google by yourself… Kamala was going to at least stay within the system, while trump is going to destroy it.

Home-brewer here. I’ve used a C02 canister and keg to carbonate my beer for a while, since it’s simpler and more consistent than trying to add sugar to a bottle before capping it.

I also bought a $1 adapter that lets me connect my CO2 to a bottle and carbonate a few liters of water with a few moments of shaking. Add a few tiny bottles of flavoring and I can make a 12-pack of seltzer in about 30 seconds with any flavors I have on hand. Pear is my current favorite, but I also have cherry, vanilla, orange and others, and they can be mixed. My kiddos love the ‘dreamsicle’ that is a few drops of vanilla + orange. I rarely add sugar, unless I’m aiming for a more ‘soda’ vibe.

The CO2 canister and gas regulator assembly was probably $70-ish bucks around 10 years ago. Refilling the canister is $20 and I do it around quarterly, while making 5-10 liters of seltzer a week. I have a homebrew store nearby, but I’m pretty sure that I could find a food-grade CO2 provider too, since any bar needs one.

I have friends who use SodaStream, but their gas canisters are terrible for pricing when you can do it yourself.

I used seltzer to kick a soda habit. I swapped sugary sodas like Mountain Dew for a non-sugar fizzy drink. I just couldn’t go for flat water and needed the bubbles. LaCroix and its cousins were a step in the right direction and having the ability to make my own on-demand was perfect.

Are you really gate-keeping fascism?

Just because we can see this coming, and it’s not terrible yet doesn’t mean it’s not terrible.

The kind of person you are calling ‘disgusting’ is empathetic to all forms of oppression and not just focused on the US local landscape – we just see it happening here right now and are calling it out. We have also been calling it out when it occurs elsewhere.

Doing anything to limit or inhibit the spread of information about what is occurring is more disgusting than being fascist to begin with. Fuck off.

Evanescence in my Lemmy? Hell yeah!

This recipe is garbage… I didn’t have any eggs, so I used olive oil. I also didn’t have an oven, so I put it all in my freezer overnight. It tasted terrible, although my 2yo liked it. My MIL told my wife to divorce me. 0/5 stars

not quite on-topic, but I hate online recipe sites/comments too

And down the rabbit hole we go!

I found stuff about LVAD, but somehow RVAD seems to be But maybe that’s what gets your heart racing…

Can’t figure out inline images in lemmy. This should be the joke: https://lemmy.myserv.one/pictrs/image/0990c4e3-e575-4824-a018-0ce119eb3ad4.jxl

I jumped into Linux, via Mint, about a year ago when I refreshed my hardware. The transition was pretty easy, and I haven’t looked back. Steam runs fine and I haven’t had a modern game that didn’t work under default proton settings except for things I’ve run outside Steam and mods. Most of my personal PC’s workload is gaming and handful of web-based apps that are effectively OS-agnostic; Everything else has an easy equivalent in the apt repos.

I would say that my decision to embrace Linux as my OS was primarily influenced by my Steam Deck. Gaming on it has been simple and the desktop UI was easy to adapt to. I replaced my laptop with the Steam Deck, bluetooth keyboard and mouse, and a USB-C dock with HDMI out (all things I already had for the laptop). I now just hook into whatever TV is handy as a monitor when I need a computer on the go.

I was a tech enthusiast when I was younger, and am thus familiar with fucking around on the command line, but now I’m an old man who just wants his stuff to work and it just has… The barrier of entry for the Linux Desktop is effectively gone. We just need PR now.

Also, I think I’d replace Mint on my primary PC with SteamOS, given a simple way to do so. About a year ago, the desktop/beta SteamOS was not fully baked.

Honestly, the ‘Talc and Sulphates’ convention sounds fun to crash at least once in your life. It’s only when a topic is old-hat that it becomes boring… I’ve always enjoyed listening to people who really know their shit talk about topics they like.

‘Implantable Medical Devices’ is either AWESOME or AWFUL depending on the kind/purpose of the device. Excruciating is definitely on the awful side, though, so pass on that one.

Up-voted, but we only need oil at the moment because the oil industry keeps strangling baby competitors. A quick, non-sourced search shows that Oil got 90-ish Billion (1) in government subsidies in 2020, while Solar got 7. Even if the numbers are 50% of actual, Renewables are not getting the help they need to become/stay viable.

(1): And that might be a waaaaay low-ball estimate: Yale said they got Trillions. Though that may be over several years.

Perhaps lobbyists could be the next class identified as extraneous.

Yes?

If you haven’t, read up on what endorphins do. Among other things, they suppress pain by making you feel good.

I like to describe spicy food as a way to experience a pain that is 100% not actually hurting you. All that capsaicin is doing is tricking your nerves.

I like the flavors that a lot of the lower-tier hot peppers produce. Jalapenos and Habaneros go into a lot of the food I make for myself, but that’s more of a flavor decision where the heat is a neat side effect. As you go up the heat scale, though, the flavors themselves start to get overpowered (at least for me).

There is, though, a sweet spot where the heat becomes too much for you, and your brain jumps in to help. That’s where the endorphins kick in and the experience changes from “This is too spicy for me…” to “This is best damn chicken sandwich I’ve ever had!” while mopping your brow.

At that point, I’d expect the cyclist to pull over and let traffic flow past.

The same way we expect slower traffic to keep right or use turnouts to let faster traffic pass them on mountain roads. Nothing wrong with being slower or less comfortable on the roads, but if you are causing traffic to back up, you can get out of the way.

The biker’s loss is <1min as they use a turnout, shoulder or sidewalk, and the cars all get where they are going without needing to perform riskier passing maneuvers.

Doesn’t generally apply if you have a single car but I’ve been in a situation behind a cyclist where I wasn’t knowledgeable about the road ahead and was unable to find a place to safely pass for a while. I clearly was making the cyclist nervous, and I was nervous. A 10 second delay for the cyclist would have resolved the issue. Instead, I spent more like a minute waiting for a moment with enough visibility to let me safely pass.