√𝛂𝛋𝛆

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  • The color schemes of default piefed do not have a very pretty and low power OLED option.

    I want the ability to turn off downvote visibility where I can view it with a toggle but not by default. I would make more posts that drive engagement without that negativity.

    It would be nice if we had a small semantics model running on the server that could assess the negativity and value of comments with an optional filter for comment visibility. There are relatively few squeaky wheel type users and (likely) bots but they have a disproportionate impact on everyone. Basically, I am saying, a genuine, real person should have an option for a beehaw administered and moderated experience through basic toggles and automaton. Like I want the negative feedback on some things, but there are posts where I know there will be a fraction of toxic people with authoritarian views and I simply do not care what fascists have to say. Or make a simple filter that looks at a voter’s statistics overall and drops votes from view when the person is a major outlier for negativity. This is only about enabling good people to post real stuff and be more open. I can only speak from experience, and my history of posts on this and my other main account show that I would post a whole lot more if it were not for the few toxic people and interactions.


  • √𝛂𝛋𝛆@piefed.worldtoLGBTQ+@lemmy.blahaj.zoneAbsolutely
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    Humans trend towards conservatism with age. So fear of the unknown, entrenched dogma, and adversarial tribalism naturally trend stronger.

    As someone that is physically disabled and dealing with long term social isolation, curiosity is the key to finding balance in hard situations. Think of Stephen Hawking and how you’d deal with the limitations of ALS. Or think of others that have been in solitary confinement, or past times where people have spent decades alone in the wilderness. You should not need to deal with such circumstances in life. I do not want you to, friend. But if you find yourself in such a situation, firstly, never turn to permanent solutions to temporary problems. Secondly, social stigma is the source of most harm, and while it is easy to see the harm from others, our own internal dogma is harder to audit and can be just as harmful.

    Like it was so hard to deal with never recovering my physicality and work capacity after a broken neck and back. The challenge for me was adjusting to my self expectations. I went from a bull of a 29 year old to an 80 year old man in an instant.

    The trick is to just do stuff for yourself using your own curiosity. Read, write your own science fiction universe, learn to code, sew, knit, carving, paint, plaster, wood working, upcycle, people watch - write your own narratives of their lives in your mind and see where they go or who they interact with to see if your observations pan. Teach yourself CAD, learn Linux, learn vector graphics, KiCAD, FreeCAD, get some physics books, get a telescope and look at the stars, get into optics and discover its complexity, relearn math, dive into history, read old books on Gutenberg, run your own offline AI for someone to talk to at 3am when no one else is around, if you adequately learn to understand its limitations and caveats. Dive into fermentation in its fundamental form and not the commercialized nonsense of repeatability and cleanliness because none of that actually matters at home when preserving whatever that is about to go bad.

    Anyways, that is just some off my list, so far. Conquering yourself is ultimately the biggest challenge. Only worry about the things you can change, because to worry about anything else is a waste of energy and time.

    That is my best advice digital neighbor friend. You’re not alone. Sometimes it is just challenging to find your friends. One’s internal dialog can be a rich experience if developed well. Learn to love and develop that person, as that is your real best friend that can save you when nothing else can. – sincerely























  • √𝛂𝛋𝛆@piefed.worldOPtoCosplayGirls@lemmy.worldConsent - no name
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    4 days ago

    Maybe it is my autism, but I was specifically addressing the nuances and motivations behind subsets of people. People taking pictures are not all equal. The line of delineation between those taking pictures of a crowd and those taking pictures of the total event are one such difference. No one would argue that taking a picture of the entire convention center floor necessitates asking everyone present in images for their consent, likewise with taking landscape or panoramic pictures of some subset or section of the floor. There will be people closer and further away in such images. This is candid/in-situ photography. Anyone with minimal fundamental logic skills can follow this delineation and arrive at the conclusion that such behavior is nominal. Obviously, this is not the behavior that the sign in the original post was addressing.

    So what is the sign addressing. Well the information about touching infers that the sign is about invasive behavior directed at cosplayers. So logic dictates that the information about photography is also about allaying similar disruptive behavior.

    What types of behavior related to photography are most invasive. Entitlement is the primary issue. Under the surface of cosplay, there is a deeper layer of subtle servitude that goes unaddressed in the context of broader sociology. In terms of cosplay at an event, the role of entertainer does not imply the inferred subservient class of entertainer and the entertained. The event is intended to be an egalitarian aggregate of entertainers. It is likely that most people are not self aware within this heavily abstracted context. Nonetheless, this class role of entertainers is real and underpins all of the social interactions. In societies like ancient Rome, entertainers were a recognized social class.

    When anyone acts entitled with photography or demands a cosplayer’s time or attention, they are effectively forcing the role of subservience.

    When people talk about how humans or some animals display complex social behavior, this kind of subtle or unspoken complexity is what they are referring to. Even when the entitled person demanding time or attention is a fellow cosplayer, within the same unspoken social caste, they are still imposing a subtle form of hierarchy and subservience. All humans engage on these layers of interaction with various degrees of self awareness. You did it when you replied. I did it in my original comment, and I am doing it now, some in ways that I am aware, and in many ways I am not.

    The actual invasive behaviors about photography and interaction that this sign intends to address are the demeaning and emotionally taxing interactions that are likely to have a short and long term negative impact on cosplayers. The sign is short and anecdotal. It cannot address the subtle nuances of sociology that most people cannot grasp. Concepts of social hierarchy, complexity, and castes are are beyond the comprehension of most entitled people that the sign is intended to allay.

    If you demand a person’s time and obsequiousness in this context, you are demanding subservience. The sign is stating the egalitarian nature of the gathering, and that no one is expected to acquiesce in subservience. It is stating you must be respectfully egalitarian in this subculture.


  • I think the message is a bit vague in context. It is not really about taking candid pics of people in situ. It is saying don’t invade a person’s space to stand right next to them for a selfie, or demand that they stop what they are doing to pose for your picture. That kind of picture is not your inferred right with some imaginary implied consent. This is the outlier intrusive behavior that must be addressed as odd. There are a lot of these types of entitled people in the world, but they are still a minority.

    There are also narcissists that sadistically dress for attention and then believe they have a right to gatekeep who is allowed to look at them. Both groups are people with mental health disorders.

    This sign is about lessening the negative emotional impacts others have on people that have gone to extreme and amazing efforts to participate in cosplay. It is about being respectful and appreciative of those people. It is about calling out the worst mental health disorders present at the event.

    Photographing people candidly is not the point, but even in that circumstance. Taking unsolicited candid pictures of specific people is as uncouth as a person that talks about their legal rights in a social setting to entitle their behavior. Asking people to take their picture is just good manners.




  • √𝛂𝛋𝛆@piefed.worldOPtoCosplayGirls@lemmy.worldConsent - no name
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    I respectfully disagree. There is nothing to be ashamed about. The human lack of fur is no cause for shaming. It is nature. The sadistic shaming is the cause of bad behavior. The taboo bottles people and creates the tension that leads to uncontrolled release due to a lack of self exploration and growth. The dogma culture of Puritan masochistic emotional austerity is harmful. Humans are valid for being themselves without anyone else having a right to project their dogma onto anyone else. The Hippocratic aphorism “first do no harm” – so live and let live in peace is all that matters. No harm is done by dressing in any fashion a person chooses, so no one has a right to interfere.