Many fall in the face of chaos, but not this one, not today

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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    10 days ago

    I drink a daily bottle of kombucha, and I’m pretty convinced that (with therapy) helped improve my mental health. I cannot explain how much better I am today than a few years ago when I first started drinking it. Within a few months, I signed up for therapy and within a year I was majorly improved.



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    I use syncthing to keep them synced between phone and desktop. But realistically I only ever really use the phone



  • A wedding can cost almost nothing. I found a very small local poor church and offered them $100 bucks to use the place on a Saturday. I baked a big cake, decorated it plain white. I overnight smoked a brisket, made a pan of Mac and cheese.

    Got a friend to officiate, and told our friends and families a month in advance. We told everyone it was a potluck. We got $100 plain rings. My grandmother ended up buying some cool flowers for decorations. A friend played some music on the church speakers.

    All in, it probably cost us $400 out of pocket, and we got enough cash from attendees to cover that and pay for us to take off work for the week to just hang out and move in together, staycation style. To be fair, I don’t think either of us would have wanted a vacation style honeymoon, we did that kind of thing later. That first week was a lot of figuring out how to live together, so that took time.

    So it’s possible to have a big party with friends and family, but spend very little. Just have everyone bring some food and it’ll work out.

    Studies show that folks are less likely to have a happy long term marriage the more they spend on a wedding. It’s a pretty clear correlation that expensive weddings typically make folks more unhappy and starts the relationship off with more financial stress. So, don’t feel bad about being frugal! As long as you are both happy, it can be very inexpensive.











  • From what I’ve seen, engineering is just a lot of physics classes. If you’re struggling, definitely you’ll need to develop more serious study habits, but it’s worth it. There’s so few good stable jobs left, and engineering is one of them. Maybe find a tutor, good YouTube lectures, maybe Khan academy. Whatever it takes. Maybe you need to do each type of problem a dozen times to get it, not just once. That’s a bummer, but it’s worth the effort. School is much much harder than real world. Everyone I know who is an engineer agrees that the schooling was the hardest part.