There are 8 varieties of gluons, the subatomic particles that exchange the strong force between quarks. The person answered with one word that more or less satisfied the 8 particle requirement. I think that’s the joke, at least

I don’t know if the last two blocks of text were an edit or I somehow missed them, but you’re right. I’ve done it before, my main fear is the possibility of her turning it around on me or prolonging the fight, but walking away is something I absolutely should exercise my right to do more. As for the last bit, Ive noticed she is a lot nicer to me in front of our friends, but she tends to justify it by saying its natural that she doesnt want to fight in front of our friends. Sometimes, I wish we would so we could get it out in a space where she can’t go full throttle on me

I really do think she is capable of being incredibly patient and sweet. I don’t say this to try to diminish her behavior at this point, I guess, but more to highlight how far she really swings. Regardless, I know deep down you’re right that the 95% doesn’t excuse the 5%. I guess at this stage, I have to work on dealing with the fact that I love her and don’t want to hurt her by leaving. I know I probably should, but that feels very difficult to do at the moment. I feel like couples therapy would probably go pretty poorly… I tend to be a bit quiet and reserved, and she is a force of charisma and very talkative. I can imagine therapy turning into a nightmare of its own, but it’s something to think about. Thank you for giving your thoughts, I really appreciate it <3

I know you are right, and it’s advice I’ve probably given to others in similar situations. I hold onto some hope that things don’t have to be this way, but also constantly reckon with the realization that I don’t imagine things getting better. I really love her and don’t want to lose her, but maybe that’s something I have to accept for my own sake. Thanks again <3

Thank you so much for the reply. I wasn’t aware of the concept of splitting, but this does resonate with her behavior. Sometimes, she talks to me like I’m her hero, like I’m always there for her when she needs me, tells me I’m the perfect partner, and deserve so much better than her. She will tell me I’m selfless, empathic, and too giving. In the next hour, she can be listing off through gritted teeth all the ways I’ve failed her, that I’m always selfish, immature, too occupied with myself, and devoid of empathy. I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells around her and over the years I find myself becoming so exhausted just speaking to her, even on a good day, when previously she was a place of comfort for me. It kills me that I even feel the way I do when I still absolutely love her to death. I’m really sorry you’ve dealt with something similar before, I know how exhausting it can be, and I really hope you’re in a better position now. I guess it’s just kind of hard to give myself permission to not support her when that’s one of the main things she criticizes me about when something goes wrong. Either way, this is really useful perspective, and as much as I hate to hear you’ve dealt with it as well it makes me feel a little less alone. Thank you so much for your reply

First of all, I want to sincerely thank you for reading this, I know it must have been a lot. I wouldn’t normally write this kind of thing because I don’t feel this kind of post can ever paint a totally accurate picture, but some of this stuff has left me feeling crazy and I desperately wanted some outside perspective. In the past, when I’ve brought this up to friends, they also mirrored a few of your sentiments. I told myself that it probably wasn’t abuse because sometimes things felt really great. As you say, I do feel like she doesn’t respect me when she is angry, but I always question in those circumstances whether I deserve respect at that moment. I don’t know how often these kinds of situations have to happen before it’s an issue, but I don’t really feel like it’s something I can talk with her about. She tends to take it very poorly if I try and mention something she has said has hurt me. Regardless, you’ve given me something to think about. Thank you again for bothering to comment, I really appreciate it.

Oooooh fuck yeah, I’m gonna have pleasant dreams tonight (✿◕‿◕)

Yeah, the average individual denouncing the actions of Hamas are reacting to headlines that describe them as terrorists and child murderers.

“They have a right to freedom, but they shouldn’t be killing innocent people”

If MSM rightfully framed it as a rebellion against an ongoing effort to colonize and ethnically cleanse Palestine, then I highly doubt you’d hear quite this many people spouting totally uninformed drivel in support of Israel.

I experience this, too! Often I’ll hear classical music out of thin air if I’m really fucking high, and I don’t even listen to classical. It’s extremely interesting whenever it happens

Lossy means that data is lost on encoding, so the original quality of the recording will be compromised in some fashion.

FLAC is superior to WAV because it’s still lossless but compressed so the files take up less space.

That’s one of the more embarrassing things I’ve seen an adult write on the internet

By left-leaning they mean leaning 2° left of total fascism

I really don’t fucking understand why some people post shit in a public space and act so taken aback when people don’t agree. Like, why the hell are you even posting this shit if you don’t want to open it up to discourse? Just talk to yourself in a mirror if you’re so terrified of someone thinking you’re a complete dullard.

A lot of them encountered the very thing they’ve been conditioned to feel disgust towards, and for a lot of them maybe for the very first time in their lives in a conversational capacity. These are people who are inundated on a near-daily basis with propaganda designed to twist the socialist narrative into one of death and destruction that leads to the inevitable collapse of all civilizations unfortunate enough to let it take root.

I don’t think that the average liberal is totally apathetic towards everyone but themselves (I think a lot of us have probably identified as such before, be it as a child or long into adulthood,) but their ideas on human rights, social justice, and broader politics are incredibly underdeveloped. When you don’t have a considerable wealth of knowledge or experience to draw on, you’re a reactionary subject to the pull of your own gut feelings and the preconceived notions instilled in you by your peers.

What I’m getting at is that I think it’s important to realize that a lot of the libs pissing their pants at the sight of evil tankies have absolutely no idea what a tankie is or does, and everything they do know is buried under 10 layers of disinformation. This doesn’t absolve them of their crimes of grand dumbassery, but I think it’s worth considering that a lot of these people would probably agree with much of what we had to say were we to peel back the layers of their programming. Alas, that isn’t often realistic and frankly isn’t solely* our responsibility.

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What age do I have to hit before I become so bitter and joyless?

Never too late for that first “blemish” on one’s heterosexuality, I suppose.

I’m a big fan of Goth, mostly dark wave and post-punk. They fill out a the majority of my rotation most days, but I like breakcore/IDM adjacent stuff quite a bit too.

Sure one might change their behaviors when traveling accordingly, but I think people would be generally understanding if an American tried to tip in the UK, and I would hope a waitress in America would understand why someone from the UK might not tip. With federation that cultural overlap is even more understandable because it’s not like I’m getting on a plane and traveling across the ocean, I’m just clicking a link that was already on my All on Hexbear. We’re also a lot larger/more active of an instance with almost quadruple the active monthly users of lemm.ee, and Hexbear has been around for about 3 years. A lot of the “brigading” people see is just the result of there being many active bears + this stuff showing up on our feeds + it being directly about us. When you consider all of these things, does it make a bit more sense why we might show up like a swarm of locusts throwing around our own inside jokes?

I’m pleasantly surprised by your response, honestly. I understand the temptation to make such arguments, and I’d be lying if I told you that astroturfing and shit like that didn’t happen, but hard leftists like us are small in number in American spaces and that level of bullshittery generally requires some alignment with corporate interests to find the resources. We’re just a bunch of regular people from many different corners who are really passionate about our opinions for a variety of reasons. Hope I wasn’t too aggro with my comment, and hope the rest of your day is a nice one

Whenever leftists post outside of their home instance it inevitably breaks down into a rehashed version of “This is America, why can’t you speak American?”