I’d suppose that makes sense, without introspection and self criticism I’d presume it’s likely that the problem would always be identified as being external.
It matches up with the backhanded compliments story too. I have a desire to help people with this way of looking at life but I’ve found over the years that more often than not, introspection needs to come from within.
I find it admirable your approach to BJJ though, I’ve know a few too many who go into martial arts as a means of learning to fight more effectively at bars.
Are you talking that weird yellow cheddar or the actual uncoloured one?