Non-binary is a broad spectrum of identity. What you’re suggesting only works for identities like genderfluid or demi-gender people.
I’m agender, which exists outside of the male-female binary (in which you are either one or the other). Agender and it’s derivatives, like gendervoid, are completely gender neutral. I only use they/them because it’s really difficult for the average person to not use a pronoun when referring to me, I very much prefer people using my name in place of one.
My bff and her brother were born here, but I’m extremely worried for them. A couple years ago DARPA approached her brother for the work he did on drone technology in college. I know her parents cut ties with their families in China when they moved here several decades ago, but that doesn’t seem like enough to keep them from being harassed at minimum.