Same, I chose Beehaw in particular because of its stance on providing a bigotry free platform… that being said as a federated service you have many options for a “home instance” but if you still want to interact with a community on another instance you will still be subject to that communities and instances policies. As a lot of people like yourself have chosen Beehaw for its safe space nature, you may miss out on communities you would feel welcomed in if you were to completely swear off Beehaw, although you do have the freedom to choose that.
Same, I chose Beehaw in particular because of its stance on providing a bigotry free platform… that being said as a federated service you have many options for a “home instance” but if you still want to interact with a community on another instance you will still be subject to that communities and instances policies. As a lot of people like yourself have chosen Beehaw for its safe space nature, you may miss out on communities you would feel welcomed in if you were to completely swear off Beehaw, although you do have the freedom to choose that.