Any old westerns you’d like to recommend? I’ve been watching a lot of 70s era and earlier movies lately, seems like I’ll stumble into the golden age of westerns sooner or later
For a more modern show (geez, 15 years old already) I really enjoyed Hell on Wheels
For me, the break timer is really just “take a few minutes to eat/hydrate/pee” and then resume the original task. Although when I’m depressed I often use one full 25 minute task to do the thing I dread, and then the next one is to play video games or watch a show - generally to do something fun to recharge my batteries. Sometimes I can’t even manage to do something fun for myself without timeboxing it, I hate that.
My wife has pretty debilitating ADHD, sometimes the pomos are really helpful for her and sometimes it’s the opposite. Without some kind of externalized structure, she can’t finish the tasks that she intends to start and it causes her a lot of distress.
She would want me to plug Spirit City LoFi. It’s a customizable task manager that’s very chill, and just gamified enough to keep her attention without being distracting
“We had an incident last week where there was literally a driver who got out, he spat on one of our members and the security just stood there and they just filmed it.
“They didn’t try to intervene,” he added. “They just let it happen.”
Well duh, warehouse security cares more about property than people
I’d make that face if someone gave me that salad too
Some dry leaves and a tomato, wow, really pulling out all the stops
Not to be flippant, but if you want to alter the way you think, then therapy is probably the answer.
The good news is that in my experience, the valuable part of therapy is totally free and you could start today.
I’ve had success with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). The model for CBT says that our automatic thoughts initiate our feelings, and while our feelings are valid, our thoughts can be bullshit.
Our brain is like an overgrown field, and each thought is like a person passing through it. Each time a thought passes through the field, it wears down a groove which will become a trail or a road. Our thoughts want to take the path of least resistance, so they follow the well-worn paths. However, we can create new paths with better thoughts that lead to more positive feelings, and eventually the negative paths have more resistance than the positive ones.
The key technique is recognizing Cognitive Biases, which are common ways that our brains lie to us, and then restructuring our thoughts through journaling exercises. Common biases include assuming other people think poorly of us, making predictions of the future with limited information, or thinking that because we feel bad we must be bad.
Now on the flip side, therapeutic techniques are not a one-size-fits-all solution. What’s worked for me might not work for everyone. And that’s okay because there’s plenty of tools in the toolbox left over.
I got a lot of mileage out of CBT. It’s logical, there’s a process to follow, and it improved the quality of my life to a point. It didn’t happen overnight, and I still have bad times more often than I’d like, but there was improvement
Whether you have access to a therapist or not, the greatest impact from therapy comes from doing the homework. It’s lame, but there it is. But if you really don’t vibe with a technique, the good news is there’s a zillion other techniques you could try a web search away.
The rant is pretty unhinged and difficult to follow.
The man is using his personal experience to say that men like sex more than women - or at least he does. He describes a scenario where the man stops contributing to the relationship for six months, which would understandably make any partner upset.
Then he says that if the woman were to confront him about not contributing to the relationship, he might act all flirtatious and offer sexual favours. He posits that the woman would never think that would make up for him being a useless slug for six months. However, he admits that if the roles were reversed he would consider the offer.
In this case, they’re related by being played by the same actor. This incarnation of Puss n Boots was definitely influenced by Antonio Banderas’ Zorro
It’s interesting that the phrasing here is that the younger people shouldn’t be allowed to date the older people. The issue with this kind of age gap is the imbalance of power, and whether you realize it or not you’ve just placed the stigma at the feet of the person who’s most likely to be victimized.
Anyway, banning this kind of thing doesn’t work. It happens at a scale that would likely be unenforceable, not to mention that rebellious people will do things because they’re banned
A better approach to harm reduction is education. Meet people where they’re at without shame and explain the risks realistically. And even then, some people just won’t learn until experience teaches them
At the end of the day, if your daughter wants to work out her daddy issues by getting railed by an older man, no amount of pearl clutching is going to prevent that
Many people prefer boneless, but this way you can save the bones to make stock
You’re gay people, is she tired of seeing you in her feed?
This has all the makings of a non-apology
Top 5%, mom would be proud!
I’d argue that racism is a symptom of some of these other things.
An imbalance of societal power leads to - or is caused by - manipulative politics. Those politics are increasingly being pushed through addictive technologies, and indeed, are using racism to divide us at the cost of democracy.
Racism is a symptom, but understanding where it’s being pushed from has value. It’s like saying someone died of heart failure - just about everyone dies of heart failure, but it can be more useful to know what caused the heart to fail
Twice more than I would have liked to.
Very fortunate nobody was hurt
Every time I’ve been hit by a car, it’s been when I’ve had the right of way. You have to be super defensive as a pedestrian because you can be thoroughly solidly right and follow all the rules… and still end up dead.
So it bothers you when people vocalize their question marks, eh?
Git is what’s known as “Version Control Software” which basically means that it keeps track of the changes you make.
It’s primarily used for software development, and where it shines is when multiple people are collaborating on a project which will receive many changes. You can create a “branch” of the project with the changes you want to “commit” and then after they’re reviewed in a “pull request” you can “merge” them back inyo the main branch. If at any point in the process you discover that the changes cause issues, a history allows you to “revert” those changes back to what you had previously.
As you can probably see, there’s a fair bit of terminology in git. It’s a powerful tool that has a learning curve in order to use it.
While git is primarily used in software development, it doesn’t have to be. In fact, you could use it for any collection of files that receive changes. It’s not uncommon to see it used for technical writing , wikis, or large collaborative documents. I recall seeing a compelling argument that it could be used for drafting legislation, although I’m not aware of any government which uses it for that purpose.
Some people argue about whether or not you should use git with non-text files because the changes are much larger, but you don’t have to rigidly follow dogma.
I knew a guy who liked to use git for his RPG campaign notes. The main branch held his setting info, and when he’d run a game he’d create a new branch. If he was pleased with the game and wanted to enshrine it in canon, he’d merge it into main. Otherwise, he could leave the branch alone, but he’d still always be able to go back and look at the adventure with the details of the setting as it was at that time. I thought it was overkill, but he had fun.
“There’s no way we evolved from monkeys, and I’ll prove it: humans are good at holding bananas!”
Can’t make this stuff up
Most things work great out of the box these days. If you do your gaming through Steam already then it’s the easiest it could be. Otherwise you can download some other platform like Lutris to manage your compatibility for you
There are definite exceptions though. There’s this great website ProtonDB that tells you how compatible games are if you want to look before you leap.
Kernel-level anticheat can make some games unplayable on Linux. Basically, it’s intended to detect cheaters, but it gives false positives on Linux. On the flip side, the software is super invasive, like once you’re aware of how it works it will make you wonder why anybody would allow that shit on their computer. Probably because they don’t know any better, but still. This is more of a problem with high budget PvP games like Call of Duty, so depending on your taste you may never encounter it
Hardware for the most part seems to just work through plug and play. However, if your stuff is highly customizable through software - like Razer Synapse/Chroma/whatever they call it these days - you may not have access to all the features.
Most Linux installers give you the option to just try out the OS in a non-permanent environment. So you could find a distro that appeals to you and then give it a test run without comitting to a full installation. It’d be a good way to see if there’s any hardware or compatibility issues.
If you have an Intel/Nvidia rig and are thinking about gaming, I recommend pop_os! I’ve been using it for a few years now and I have no complaints.
I have a hard time watching new movies and shows. I guess I usually look for a show to unwind with, and nostalgia is a pretty strong factor there.
If I’m watching a new show with somebody because they want to see it, I’ll generally enjoy myself. But lately I find that I’m pretty quick to reject anything made after 2020 or so
Another way I look at it is that there’s an awful lot of crap competing for my attention, and with the rise of gen-AI, writing for streaming, and other icky things, a lot of it really is crap. I’d rather watch the crap I already know I like