cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail…I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men’s groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I’ve noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don’t want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

  • chickentendrils [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    5 months ago

    A lot of that’s probably some neural process resulting from evolution honestly, despite being able to recognize these things we do only have so many senses and mental buckets.

    I’ve always had friends who were women/girls growing up, mostly through other friends. It’s possible otherwise I may have been susceptible to similar patterns of thinking after a relationship ending. I’d say the relationship with therapists and lawyers is still somewhat stressful, even if it gets you to a less stressful place ultimately, so I can see why it may leech into relationships like that…

    So my input would be to try finding a hobby where you can be at ease around women, other people too you know what I mean probably. Maybe some kind of martial art or something easy like board games (there’s actually really good ones now).