I am planning on having children in the next 10 years (not that I care about the financial burden). When I thought about this I decided to make up some advice:
“Spare the rod literally but not metaphorically.”
Basically yes, corporal punishment is too cruel, you still need to discipline the child in other ways. How can this be executed? Life lessons are my pitch.
Time outs, revoking privileges (screen time, dessert, eating out, whatever) with warnings if they persist in doing something bad.
“No, you spilled the flour so you have to clean it. It’s not hard to clean what you spilled.”
Also, don’t be a hypocrite.