Some people don’t even realize they are ace until much later, not realizing our lack of interest in sexual stuff is really that abnormal for allos. I’ve never actually dated or had any sort of sexual experiences, and I still didn’t realize I was ace until my late 20s. Others go through the motions assuming that their experience is just normal and everyone is just going through the motions because its expected, particularly for women due to cultural differences in how men and women’s sexuality have been treated (at least in the US).