I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.

My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don’t want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.

What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?

This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.

  • Assian_Candor [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    It’s pretty easy to be attracted to someone and just… keep it professional?

    Like I have had colleagues I find attractive but tbh even flirting let alone asking someone out on a date at work is a bright red line for me. Women deserve to be treated as professionals at the work place and not sexualized. Plenty of fish in the sea and hey, you’ve already got one

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      8 months ago

      It’s pretty easy to be attracted to someone and just… keep it professional?

      I guess it is. I am just not very used to interacting with women besides my gf, mother and sisters so I just don’t want to mess up due to immaturity or something. I will just follow the reasonable rules of not getting close to other people I am attracted to, not doing drugs without my gf present etc