I’ve seen a few posts recently calling people out for using “they” when referring to someone with gendered or neo pronouns.

As a long time dumb guy I was under the impression that gender neutral pronouns were basically always acceptable and I’m now concerned that I have been unintentionally making people uncomfortable.

My current understanding based on context is that once someone has made their pronouns known, unless specifically included, ‘they’ is no longer acceptable. Thank you in advance for taking the time to help me out

  • christian [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    9 months ago

    Cis privilege here but when I see this happen to hexbear users I give the benefit of the doubt until they blow their chance to apologize. I have no argument against what you’re saying, and I think there’s almost zero chance I could make this mistake in real life, but I feel like I’m bound to mess that up on here at some point because I’m still really awful with only reading post content and basically ignoring the usernames. I’m here a bit, but I don’t spend anywhere near as much time posting online as I did 10-20 years ago and I can easily see myself slipping back to the habit where everyone is ungendered until their post content makes it clear.

    • context [fae/faer, fae/faer]@hexbear.net
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      9 months ago

      until they blow their chance to apologize

      yeah if someone makes a mistake, the right move is to apologize, try to do better, and move on. people make mistakes, it’s okay. my brother in christ, we’re all sinners.