I’ll start: “Shoving x down our throats”
the amount of people who have told me i’m one of the good ones because “at least you don’t shove gayness down our throats,” or “i’m fine with it if they dont shove it down our throats” has made me cringe whenever i hear that phrase used in any context, even harmlessly. how about you guys?
I appreciate it tried to come from a supportive place, but I feel like any term that groups an entire range of people as being a single label is going to be inherently problematic. As opposed to just using an adjective to describe a human, it turns people into something else. It’s an important but subtle lingual distinction between describing one part of you, and ascribing your entire existence as beholden to that one part of you.
If I’m a person who likes beans, I’m still a human being with many other complex dimensions to learn about. If I’m a “Beanlover” then people suddenly assume they know everything about me, and I can be separately thought of and judged from the rest of the population.
I mean I am a bean lover, but that’s beside the point.