ChatGPT: Here are some affordable indoor date (unker: yes I prompted indoors, outdoors only work if the weather is not hot, or if I can get away with wearing almost nothing, or you know, in a four season country) ideas in the Klang Valley area, all below MYR 100:
- Have a movie night at home
unker: Mayyyyybe third date, but certainly not first! Also ChatGPT, you’re way too loose as a woman if your first suggestion is Netflix & Chill!
- Plan a DIY spa day: Create a spa-like ambiance at home with scented candles, relaxing music, and aromatic oils. Take turns giving each other massages, facial treatments, or foot soaks.
unker: This works if you live alone, but also scary if you do live alone… and I will NOT let a man give me facial treatments (unless…)!!
- Cook a romantic dinner together: Instead of going out, prepare a delicious meal together at home. Choose a recipe you both love and enjoy the process of cooking and sharing a homemade dinner.
unker: Actually this doesn’t sound too bad! And also can observe working styles. Are you the clean-as-you-go type of person or the leave-the-mess-for-later type?
- Have a themed game night: Pick a theme for your game night, whether it’s classic board games, card games, or even video games. Prepare some snacks and beverages, and have fun competing or cooperating in various games.
unker: For the introvert, it’s nice to have something else to focus on while spending time together so yeah this sounds great too, but why all also have to be in someone’s house eh. Well actually can just go to a board game cafe. Recently found one near Sunway, where you just buy one drink and you can play all their games, no time limit!
- Explore a local bookstore or library: Spend a cozy afternoon browsing through books together at a local bookstore or library. Share recommendations, read excerpts, or pick a book to read together.
unker: This actually sounds good too! Libraries especially (totally not because of AC). A book to read together? Bro that’s actually pretty romantic suggestion. Okay A+ for this one ChatGPT.
- Take a scenic walk in a park: Visit a nearby park or botanical garden and take a leisurely stroll together. Enjoy the fresh air, beautiful surroundings, and the chance to have meaningful conversations.
unker: Eh this one not indoors also. But evening walks in a dog park, that I can get into!
- Have a picnic indoors: Create an indoor picnic by spreading a blanket on the floor and packing a basket with your favorite snacks, sandwiches, and fruits. Enjoy a cozy picnic right in your living room.
unker: Is it still special if that’s already what I do on my own? I actually like sitting on floors at home, so I mean, I have the upperhand if anything, ha!
- Plan a DIY craft or art session: Get creative together by working on a DIY craft project or painting. You can find affordable art supplies at local craft stores or repurpose items you already have at home.
unker: Easy to prepare and fun. Don’t have to do this at your own home either, can find a pondok or a park or something even!
- Attend a local community event: Keep an eye out for free or low-cost community events happening in your area, such as art exhibitions, cultural festivals, or live music performances.
unker: Screw dates, I wanna do this with friends too!
- Have a karaoke night: Sing your hearts out with a fun karaoke session at home. Use a karaoke app or find karaoke videos on YouTube and enjoy a night of laughter and music.
unker: Uhh… I can see this working if we are both musically inclined, and one of us plays a musical instrument and we play that instead.
5/10 for me, that’s not too shabby actually!
My order from favourite to least favourite:
- Library Date
- Cook romantic dinner together (I make a mean mushroom soup, lasagna and brownies, toot toot!)
- Evening walks in a dog park
- Themed Game Nights
- Local community events
The other 5: meh.
ChatGPT aside, the standard dinner dates + gelato isn’t too bad for unker either although it can get stale sometimes. I still prefer first dates in public or where we don’t need to take the same car (for safety purposes) though.
What’s your usual go to casual date ideas with the least advanced planning needed (like needing to get art supplies first, although I suppose that can also be a part of the date too!), if any?
Soooo…First time posting here (both here and reddit). All interesting and great ideas. IMHO, I’d do many of those for my 2nd date after I’ve known the date a little more (esp scary when meeting people for the first time via tinder, bumble, coffeemeetsbagel, etc. I’ve heard things going very wrong from their first dates. I’m M btw.
Just my 2 cents - I’d bring my first dates (especially if it’s via dating apps) to a shopping mall. The main reason for these are:
- Public area(If meeting first time via dating apps, it’s pretty scary meeting a stranger and this will reduce the amount of stress i.e. it’s crowded and there’s a low chance of something going wrong i.e. getting mugged or threatened or worst …since there’s cameras around malls)
- Easy alternatives - there are many alternatives to switch to - i.e. One U has a batting area, some malls have a garden, there’s usually a movie theater as well, there’s also some handicraft shops in some malls too and if all else fails, just walking around the mall and talking works too. It will also be useful to scope out after a meal/food on how well things are going and if there’s no compatibility it’s better to be clear, polite and mature about it - Don’t leave your date hanging!
- 100 bucks is a good budget, but if you wanna cheap out, don’t go for meals. Go for in-between meals. i.e. Coffee, desserts like cakes or ice cream, etc. Don’t get anything that’s too cheap though (you shouldn’t be since a decent “in-between meals” are usually the same price or cheaper than “actual” meals in shopping malls).
- Don’t forget the main point of the date is getting to know the other person. It doesn’t have to be all fun and games although that certainly helps. Also communicate clearly to manage expectations pre-date.
- Good luck and don’t forget to enjoy yourself
PS: This is from my personal experience and feel free to take it with a grain of salt. What works for me might not work for you.
I guess my age is very telling; I forgot you can’t do much with MYR100 these days :/
On point 4 though, at what point is it too pre-mature to discuss or manage expectations? Like how detailed or how vague should we be? :/
As a guy, I’d try to manage/discuss expectations before the date happens, but after the date has been agreed upon. Best if there’s some expectations some time before the date rather than just before the date happens - it’ll be good not to shock your date lol. Different people have different characters/behaviors so do what feels the most comfortable for you (But not too uncomfortable for the other party). We’re both here to enjoy ourselves after all :)
I don’t think it should be too detailed or too vague. Just think of yourself from the date’s point of view, receiving your own expectations - Is it too vague and they’re in the dark or too detailed that its starting to feel like a project manager running a project?
Don’t think about MYR100. A good date is about connection and not so much what you do (Although that helps too) PS: Replied a little late - I gotta get used to this application more lol.
I mean that’s the challenge: it’s soooo hard to tell what’s too pre-mature and what’s too vague. At the same time, yeah, how much questions is too much before it feels like an interview and much too formal? Aaaaaaaa
I guess this never gets easier. >.< and if it does gets easier, what does that say about ourselves as well? hahaha.
True true - I guess time will tell if you’re doing it correctly or not. Or you could just ask for feedback lol XD.
I’d reckon it’s pre-mature if the date hasn’t been agreed upon. IMHO - once it’s agreed upon, any time between then and the date is a good time, just not last minute. Or you could bring it up immediately after the date has been agreed upon as it’s potentially deciding where to go and what your partner’s comfort zone is, etc.
Hmmmm - good question. I think the questions are too much(many) when the questions are too static. Add in some flare, maybe talk about some background story, make it interesting. Take it easy, and please don’t read out the questions one by one lol.
When I was first starting out, this helped me quite a lot. You can give it a try - free resource on youtube FTW: https://www.youtube.com/@Charismaoncommand
Lol - If it gets easier, it means we’re leveling up one way or another (irrespective whether it’s success or failure). Just like sending in a whole bunch of job applications. We just need one to say yes! XD
