Yeah, it’s not great if you think about it, but it’s standard. I’m not here to be a prescriptivist; I’m just describing my experience (and it’s a common one in the US of A).
There are lots of reasons for using a smartphone beyond avoiding engaging in conversation though. Looking things up, sharing contact info, planning another date, paying for the meal/event, even going to a movie can almost require an app.
I’m not saying these would be the majority of the time or anything, but not using your phone whatsoever is more of a limitation than you’d think.
Holy shit I’ve got some boomer energy, here:
The reason to not take out your phone isn’t because someone might hate on your phone.
You don’t take out your phone on a date so that you can be giving that person your full attention.
Yeah, that’s my immediate thought as well. Attention is huge.
So how are you paying?
What do you mean?
You pay for your meal via contactless right? So you have to get your phone out.
No one saying they get your phone out in the meal. It’s just if you get your phone out at any point on a first date, they’ll see it right?
At a sit-down place, you normally give your card to the waitstaff once they bring the check/receipt. There’s no tap-to-pay terminal they bring to you.
You should not ever let someone take your bank card out of your sight! Where are you where this is accepted!?
Yeah, it’s not great if you think about it, but it’s standard. I’m not here to be a prescriptivist; I’m just describing my experience (and it’s a common one in the US of A).
That’s not how it works everywhere in the world. Most places you just pay with your phone or your card.
Card? Cash? I can’t think of the last time I paid with my phone at a sit-down restaurant.
There are lots of reasons for using a smartphone beyond avoiding engaging in conversation though. Looking things up, sharing contact info, planning another date, paying for the meal/event, even going to a movie can almost require an app.
I’m not saying these would be the majority of the time or anything, but not using your phone whatsoever is more of a limitation than you’d think.
People with existing family trying to date, like a single parent checking on their kids. For sure the blanket no phone attitude is unrealistic.
I’ve got some zoomer info for you: We use our phone to check the time
Now tell em to fuck off our lawns!