• density@kbin.social
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    11 months ago

    I agree the other comment is a bit crass and small minded. It sounds like a very painful situation.

    But… for ten (10) years your wife is terrorized by a website on a specific day…? Sounds like it could have been mitigated no?

    • don’t go on facebook
    • don’t go to work (if your job intrinsically involves using facebook or you just can’t resist it)
    • have someone triage/screen your facebook on this specific day — delete/hide the post

    my condolences to your wife for the loss of her father.

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      11 months ago

      Yes, you get it. Speaking as a software engineer, users need to adapt their behavior to accommodate the product, not the other way around.

      It’s impossible to account for every fanciful scenario or ethical edge case - remember, software exists in a vacuum of pure logic. So if a braindead algorithm dredges up a painful memory of yours every year and tactlessly features it alongside a lighthearted quip from the marketing team, it’s nobody’s fault.

      Well, it’s your fault for not avoiding Facebook on that day. What I mean is, it’s not my fault and it’s not Facebook’s fault, whatever that means. It’s just the computer doing its thing.

      Just kidding!!! I am using sarcasm to express my contempt for this mentality! It is correct to criticize tech companies for catastrophic UX failures! I believe it is in very poor taste to offer workarounds in reply to an anecdote like this!

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        11 months ago

        remember, software exists in a vacuum of pure logic

        You got me fooled until that line. Then I read the “just kidding”.

        I think that you’re being spot on; that’s a lot like plenty software developers handle ethical and moral matters, by not doing it at all, pretending that “its just maths lol” without acknowledging that, ultimately, software is made for people, not the opposite.