• XIIIesq@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I think people deserve dignity, but that respect is something that’s earnt.

    If fat people don’t like being criticised for their bad choices and unhealthy, unattractive bodies, that’s really not my problem. If you hate that someone thinks you’re fat, lose some weight, is it really worth digging your heels in over to make a point about a lack of respect?

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      1 year ago

      Is it so hard to just not bully people? You don’t have to agree, you just have to not say anything. You’re the one dying on a hill, here.

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        1 year ago

        We have blurred lines between the ideas of a lack of respect and bullying.

        It’s disrespectful to say “my god, that’s a big fat arse!”, but it’s not bullying unless it’s repetitive and used with the intent of hurting their feelings, bullying also implies an imbalance of power.

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          1 year ago

          It doesn’t have to be repetitive, or an imbalance of power. Simply trying to hurt someone’s feelings for no reason would still be bullying. And i can’t think of any other reason to comment negatively on a stranger’s appearance to their face.

          “My my, you have such wonky teeth!”

          That would upset me, no matter who said it or how often.