The Grace Hopper Celebration is meant to unite women in tech. This year droves of men came looking for jobs.

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    1 year ago

    That would only make sense coming from a position where you assume people have no sense of integrity.

    First issue is assuming your material difficulties is some how superior to others.

    Second assuming the only thing that matters when facing material difficulties is how to advantage only yourself.

    Lots of people in life are capable of enduring difficult times while also sacrificing or placing themselves behind others. I don’t see how you don’t understand that. I can promise you I have faced and continue to face many difficulties which all have taught me life lessons. One of the most important lessons is that overcoming those times by hurting others is not a position I enjoy.

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      people have no sense of integrity.

      I genuinely think this has nothing to do with integrity.

      First issue is assuming your material difficulties is some how superior to others.

      This is not an issue, it’s absolutely normal, because I am aware of my material difficulties, while I am not aware of other people’s one to the same extent. I can’t decide not to buy a house because by doing so I increase the demand, which increases prices and makes it harder for poor people to afford housing. You are putting the burden to address a systemic issue on another victim.

      Second assuming the only thing that matters when facing material difficulties is how to advantage only yourself.

      I am not saying this is the only thing that matters, but I am saying it matters, and I think it’s completely unfair to think that people shouldn’t take care of themselves. I turn my eye to the mechanisms that create the scarcity that put me and a woman to fight for resources, not on either one of them.

      Lots of people in life are capable of enduring difficult times while also sacrificing or placing themselves behind others. I don’t see how you don’t understand that.

      Again, I think we have simply too different of a perception of what means a difficult time. Sorry, but this argument to me sounds as complete madness.

      One of the most important lessons is that overcoming those times by hurting others is not a position I enjoy.

      So not only I am forced to sell my labor to survive, which is the only chance I have, but when I do I am anyway hurting others. So what are my options? Suicide? Any job I am going to take, whether it comes though this fair or not, I am taking it potentially from an under represented category, be it a woman, an old person, black folks, LGBTQ+ community, etc. So I should just stop working?

      I will say more, if you carry on your line of reasoning further, any of the people working in tech is US are participating in a system that in a bigger scale hurts people from third world countries (thinking for example of labor exploitation) and pollutes the planet. So what should people do?

      The working class should build solidarity, should develop a consciousness that allow them to fight united against the system that creates arbitrary scarcity of resources, not self-police and create a hierarchy to split the crumbles among themselves.

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        I can’t decide not to buy a house because by doing so I increase the demand, which increases prices and makes it harder for poor people to afford housing.

        Not sure why you can’t do that. But people do that everyday. Its a personal calculation. Look at how many people choose not to have kids because they feel the world is over populated. How many people carry garbage until they reach a garbage can. Lots of these calculations occur every day. As we become shittier and shitier people then less and less of the calculations happen. More garbage ends up on streets.

        So what are my options? Suicide?

        Use a job board or fair that is for you.

        So I should just stop working?

        You shouldn’t go to a job fair for a group that you’re not a part of.

        So what should people do?

        This is taking it to absurd lengths. Its a balancing act. A calculation that we all make day to day. Some put more emphasis on themselves. Like most people don’t feel like they need to attend job fairs for women when they are not a women. When I left the military I attended job fairs for veterans. Should you also be invited to those? What about job fairs at the university I attended?

        The working class should build solidarity

        Entering a space we weren’t invited to take away their opportunity would not be solidarity.

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          But people do that everyday.

          Come on, this is a huge stretch. I want to meet one person who decided not to buy a house to facilitate housing for others. This has nothing to do with choosing to have kids or not, that is a choice that is not determined by your material necessities.

          Use a job board or fair that is for you.

          You deliberately ignored the premises of that reasoning. Following your logic, any job I take, by default, is a job potentially taken away from someone who needs it the most. ANY. I don’t belong to that vulnerable category, therefore me taking any job will reinforce the current inbalance. So what should I do?

          This is taking it to absurd lengths. Its a balancing act.

          Oh, perfect. According to my sensibility, people in need (emphasis on need) of a job would make the right call if they would attempt to candidate for any job they can possibly get. The scarcity of jobs available is not their fault, nor is the discrimination of women in the workplace. They also by definition do not hold any position of power and as such I can’t in good faith categorize them as oppressors.

          job fairs for veterans. Should you also be invited to those?

          No, but I don’t care for men to be invited to this particular fair either. I am discussing the analysis the followed the fact that some men decided to show up (i.e., the article and the way it describes the fact) anyway.

          Entering a space we weren’t invited to take away their opportunity would not be solidarity.

          Also excluding and blaming fellow proletarians because they are the wrong gender doesn’t.

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            that is a choice that is not determined by your material necessities.

            Material necessities? Its the one thing we’re hardwired to want to do in life. Procreation is one of the greatest material necessities we have. But thats beside the point here. The issue isn’t buying a house. Its that people do choose to not participate in things based on their own moral choice. Some people are consumers some are not. A house isn’t a material necessity. Having a place to live is but owning a home is not.

            Following your logic, any job I take, by default, is a job potentially taken away from someone who needs it the most

            You’re on your own there because the whole point here is about men entering a job fair for women.

            me taking any job will reinforce the current in balance. So what should I do?

            Find job fairs for you. Taking a job here isn’t the problem. Job fairs don’t mean they get a job over you. It gives an opportunity to meet companies and apply. Something you can do on your own. There is a big difference here between applying for a job and entering a job fair marketed to women’s and marginalized groups. You don’t factor that in to your logic here and that’s creating a big issue.

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              We are fairly evolved and plenty of people don’t have kids, it’s not a material necessity, as in, you don’t risk to die if you don’t. You do if you don’t eat and don’t have a shelter, and to get those, you need a job or to commit crimes. This is all besides the point, the point is that nobody in the society acts like that because it is simply impossible living like that. It doesn’t matter if it’s buying a house, renting or occupying one. The moment you, from a “privileged” category get a roof on your head, you contributed to raise the overall estate prices, reduce the available apartments for rent etc. The only choice you have is to stay homeless, if you really don’t want to affect anybody (obviously, I am bringing it to the extreme to make a point). Generally people don’t act like this, you don’t keep your house in shitty condition to keep the value of the building low so that others can move in, and expecting this kind of “ethical consumerism” from victims of a system is - in my opinion - in itself oppressive.

              Now, coming to the rest, you say that you are just talking about the fair. But your logic is broader than that, it is about not cutting the line, not taking someone else’s job. Then what I am saying is that whatever job I take, as a white male, I am going to reinforce the unbalance already present between man and women. As such, I am contributing to the problem, whereas if I don’t take a job, that can potentially go to a woman, therefore contributing to solve the problem. Obviously this is extreme but the logic is the same. If your logic only applies to this particular fair, then fine, this means that tomorrow, in any other place, I shouldn’t give a damn about who else I am contending the job with? This to me feels simply strange and inconsequential, either I act based on the moral principle, which is not confined to the fair, or I don’t. But maybe you see it differently.

              Either way, I am going off for the day, so I will wrap it here. I think we simply have different sensibilities in finding that balance that you mentioned, which might derive from different cultural backgrounds and personal histories. I do not see a point of convergence.