I like a lot of the communities on that instance, but every once in a while I just get hit with a random wave of toxicity by them for no reason. For example, there was a post asking which communities from Reddit do you wish existed on Lemmy, and I answered honestly saying more car related communities as they are one of my hobbies, and I got severely downvoted and got replied to with “there is a FuckCars community” There are other times in the past where something similar happened in a lemmy.ml community, where I said something that was 100% non-offensive, non-argumentative, and non-political but got mass down voted for no reason. I have not had this problem anywhere else however. Does anyone else have a similar experience or no?
My biggest complaint about Lemmy is really a complaint about me. I let myself get drawn in to multiple exhausting conversations today. Usually, it’ll be weeks between convos like that, but apparently the assholes are out in force today.
I need to remember that it’s okay to ignore people - but when they’ve decided that you’re WRONG, and won’t stop nagging you about it, it’s hard to just let things go.
When my instance was still federated with hexbear I would see these statements that I knew were wrong but they were said so confidently. I spent ages checking through history events to confirm that I was right and their post was complete history misinformation. Then I would reply with dates and explained what actually happened and then like 10 people from hexbear would chime in saying I’m wrong and double down on the original claim.
This you?
https://hexbear.net/comment/3798924
I got these same struggles, bud.
I use the “block” feature pretty liberally. If some random stranger is being an asshole, I don’t really see the need to continue engaging with them.
I did that on reddit and it was pretty fascinating to see that some people really can be assholes one day and then be helpful and friendly the next, I would’ve never noticed had I not blocked them. I agree with you though, if someone acts like conversations on the internet are a place for them to vent their anger then I want nothing to do with them.
I just ignore people who annoy me for the same reason. Either of us could be having a bad day or misunderstanding what the other is trying to communicate. It doesn’t mean they might not say something I want to read in the future - especially with smaller communities.
I used to really like the RES extension so I could tag people just in case I come across them again in the future. Both positive and negative experiences with people.
I’ve only blocked a handful of people like shallowboob (or whatever their name was) who karma farmed/karma bot and I just wasn’t interested anymore.
That’s interesting, not what I’d expect – but hey, everyone has their off days.
In an online space with more of a community feel, it would probably be worth extending a little more grace and patience. Lemmy doesn’t have that feel to me, though. It feels like having random conversations with strangers with no continuity.
I’ll admit, part of this is a pattern I started on reddit. I tried to curate my community list, but I made the – decision? mistake? – of including my city and state-specific subreddits. They were basically cesspits of racism and trolling compared to the good communities that I liked. There was also the increase in political propaganda bots over the years (not bad when I joined, terrible by time I left). I tried to avoid the worst offenders, but sometimes I’d get bored with my feed and click on the “all” feed. Bad idea.