• Hudell@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    14 days ago

    1: You don’t need to give that many details about your private life.

    2: The point is that it’s not about you. Your height and shape don’t matter that much. There are enough “bad apples” among men that women simply must presume anyone they don’t know is a potential threat. From tiny twigs to tall bears.

    It sucks to be perceived as a potential threat when you know for a fact that you are not a threat to anyone, but there are enough threats out there that it is perfectly justified to be seen that way.

    I don’t know if it’s the autism in me or what, but any time I noticed someone was threatened by my presence, my first instinct was just to feel sorry for them - not for myself. And then I try to go away or give them distance or something else to give them peace of mind. What I see in comments like yours and many others around the internet is that a lot of men react the other way around: being annoyed to be perceived unfairly even though that is nothing compared to the other person who is potentially even fearing for their life.

    But anyway, at the end of the day the problem is still the same: if the world was safer for women, it would also be better for the men who don’t want to be seen as enemy.