• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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    for instance you can’t drunkenly decide to divorce legally and then have to settle all the finances and shit even if you ended up making up and getting back together.

    You can’t here either. You file for divorce, and then you can cancel the process at any time while estates and whatnot are settled. If you end up making up later, get remarried. I’ve known couples who have been remarried three times, it’s not common, but it’s a thing.

    The law is originally from 1929 iirc

    I’m guessing Lutheranism has something to do with it.

    Hell it took until 2023 to repeal the law which mandated that any transitioning trans person had to be sterilised.

    Wow, that’s truly awful. I thought my state was bad since we had a law on the books until two years ago that allowed guardians to forcibly sterilize their adult children (i.e. if they have a mental disability of some sort), provided they got a court order first (required “medical necessity,” not just “pregnancy is inconvenient”).

    I think you’re confusing Finland for a democracy when we’re actually a bureaucracy

    They’re the same picture. And that’s usually a good thing, I’d much rather something be inconvenient than impossible.

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      You can have a huge row and be divorced within a week.

      You can’t here.

      It’s the same in practice, as in just deciding to leave a person and fuck off and start filing and doing all the finance settling, (but just some local differences obviously) and then in 6-12 months you have to confirm it.

      I’m not joking about Finland being a bureaucracy, quite literally. Nation filled with rulewhores, and mostly bigots making those rules, because due to the rules no-one gets in power who should and because there’s so many rules, nothing gets done because it’s not in full accordance with every single rule.

      Finland is a really easy place to live in in terms of social security and whatnot, but not the best in terms of acceptance of differences or having any open mind in general. Or emotions, for that matter. Closed hearts, closed minds. Just blindly read the rules, or even just pretend to. I once actually quoted the law an government office said they based their decision on and pitily admitted I may be correct but that due to “overall analysis” decision will still be to deny my application.

      I could literally write a few books on it.

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        Lol. Maybe it’s worse there, but that doesn’t mean it’s great here. I wish we could collectively find a happy medium where things are somewhat efficient while still having a reasonable safety net.

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          Worse, better, who knows. And I’m not really in a life position to even care so…

          Just wanted to share differences.