Just because the best thing might have been easy to answer, I want you all to think a little more to recall what was the second best thing that happened to you this year.

  • Uli@sopuli.xyz
    42·
    3 days ago

    Well, the best thing that happened to me was meeting my girlfriend. Just happened a month ago, but we already feel like we’re going to spend the rest of our lives together and this is after me not dating at all for almost fifteen years.

    So, the second best thing has to be several months ago when my family caught on to the fact that I was depressed and overwhelmed with clutter from stuff I was hoarding because I felt too guilty about throwing things away. They helped me sort through it all so it wasn’t so overwhelming. My living space is nice and tidy now and that’s what allowed me the confidence to go meet a partner who is perfect for me in almost every way.

    • DaleGribble88@programming.devEnglish
      61·
      3 days ago

      Weirdly same boat. Known the girl for about 2 years, but just started dating about a month ago. I love her so much! Prior to her, no 3rd dates in about 10 years.
      The big difference is that I live in my mom’s basement and she is the hoarder, and her stuff invaded my space. I started therapy and have begun making plans to be moved out by February, hopefully in an apartment much closer to work to boot! In the meantime, almost all of her stuff is out of my current bedroom and I’ve moved furniture around to be more functional for me.
      I’ll also throw out going back on OCD meds, and smoking pot for the first time in my 29 years of living to manage panic attacks. Highly effective, and basically no side effects.

      • Uli@sopuli.xyz
        3·
        3 days ago

        I’m glad you’ve broken that dating barrier as well! It certainly is difficult to invite people in when life is cluttered, and I can imagine the added complication of the clutter not being your own made things especially tricky. I’m personally on the opposite end of the cannabis spectrum at the moment - I used it for many years, mainly to break down my emotions and get at the root causes of my anxieties. I’m at the point now where I’ve done a lot of self improvement, but the cannabis has become more of a hindrance. I was dependent on it and definitely seeing some side effects from long term usage. I think it did serve a purpose, but it’s become time for me to stop using it as a crutch. Just a minor heads up to use with moderation if possible. I’m happy you’ve found someone though, and that your life is heading in a good direction. Wishing you all kinds of success in your relationship and life!

        • DaleGribble88@programming.devEnglish
          2·
          1 day ago

          Thanks man! I appreciate the advice and will absolutely keep it in mind. I’m happy to know that your life is moving in a good direction too. It helps remind me that it is possible and that I’m not alone. Happy new year!

  • Stupidmanager@lemmy.worldEnglish
    9·
    3 days ago

    My divorce was the second best thing to happen to me. First was my Ex, informing me she was getting married again 4 more days). I will end up paying 8 months of alimony (maintenance) and no longer owe her anything ever again.

  • ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    15·
    3 days ago

    A tie between defending my dissertation proposal and giving a talk at a major conference :)

    I’m supposed to say the best is my new child but there are so many pros and cons/difficulties so that’s hard to say!🥲

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      3·
      2 days ago

      You’ve got to count the good with the bad. The bad is inevitable, so celebrate the good as the signal against the noise any chance you can

  • brlemworld@lemmy.world
    51·
    3 days ago

    I had a glimmer of hope that democracy would continue. Texas Bear Roundup was nice 🐻, I think I’ll go again next spring. I bought a camper and have been embracing a new hobby.