• antlion@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    25 days ago

    Recreational DNA testing eventually led to discovering that I had never before met my biological father. Mom got it wrong. I met him and his family this summer finally. I am slightly irritated that my last name (and my child’s) is now kind of meaningless, and it’s too much of a hassle to change it.

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      25 days ago

      Paternity testing should be done for every child. The child and father should have the same certainty that mothers have.

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          25 days ago

          It’s okay to disagree. But many who would line to know can object only when it’s already too late.

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            25 days ago

            The only thing I can imagine working is for a birth certificate when listing father, would have a selection of “presumed” or “verified”, where verified would have a doctor sign off. It should be optional. But it would be nice if a paternity test was presented as an option automatically, without needing suspicion or accusation.

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              25 days ago

              That default to suspicion/accusation is why fathers don’t have real rights in this matter.

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                25 days ago

                As it only requires saliva, any father can test their child’s DNA. Babies drool a lot. It may cost a few hundred dollars to do so. I suppose that makes it even less trusting to do it in secret than just having it as standard medical procedure.

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        25 days ago

        Completely agree.

        I mean there so many videos like this https://youtube.com/shorts/FgzbCJYCBr8 that dude is devastated. Or this ‘classic’ https://youtube.com/shorts/qj0zsL68Ka8 or this or guy https://youtube.com/shorts/j3PWef89kPw

        I could keep going, it’s not that hard videos like that’s and I wish it was.

        Just for a pallet cleanser, look how happy this do is to find out that he is the father. https://youtube.com/shorts/PfRR5iKE70Q