cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/1874605

A 17-year-old from Nebraska and her mother are facing criminal charges including performing an illegal abortion and concealing a dead body after police obtained the pair’s private chat history from Facebook, court documents published by Motherboard show.

  • sparemethewearysigh@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    This is exactly the point I’ve made to friends and family. They complain I’m not on social media like they are and it makes it more difficult to connect with me on things, but I refuse. I will not use services that blatantly disrespect my privacy.

    • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Same, They treat me like some tinfoil hat conspiracist because I refuse to sign up for social media.

      and all the links to news stories showing how these companies abuse that information, like in the above news story, are met with handwaves and eye rolls… Cause they wont care or listen until the leopard eats their face.

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        1 year ago

        Employers and romantic partners can be especially put off if they can’t find any trace of you online. And if they really care, they’ll dig harder to find that time where you declared bankruptcy, or you got arrested for public intoxication, or where someone deep in your past said something negative about you, and that’s all that will stick in your mind when they think of you.

        For me personally, having a simple, but relatively barren social media presence is worth it to avoid the persistent diggers, who will find something about you if they don’t see anything public.

        And besides, everything about most of us is already stored in Apple or Google’s datacenters. There’s no hiding from the deeply intrusive data collection those companies do. So having some simple information out in the open is likely better for privacy in some ways.

        If you disagree with my take, that’s fine, I just wanted to give another perspective.

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          1 year ago

          Employers and romantic partners can be especially put off if they can’t find any trace of you online

          Good. I dont want to be involved in anyone that obsessive over social media.

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            1 year ago

            It’s not that they’re obsessive over social media, they’re just used to being able to simply look up general information about people online through social media sites. And if you don’t present anything for them to find, it often encourages further digging.

            But you do you, I’m not trying to change your mind.

    • ZombieTheZombieCat@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      I know, I have no social media and just left reddit too. I hate it when I hear that not being on social media is a “red flag” in the dating scene. But I guess I wouldn’t want to be with someone who cared so little about privacy anyway.

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        1 year ago

        Posting “I have no social media” on lemmy. I guess lemmy is antisosial media

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        1 year ago

        Sorry to say, it’s not disrespect. It’s a contract. You want to connect, you sell off your ~~soul ~~ data.

        THIS SERVICE IS NOT FREE OF COST. is not plainly written in the contract, but here they are; “disrespected”.