• AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    One of my best friend’s thing is being restrained. He has a bachelor’s degree, is a teacher, and is very smart. But if someone tries to restrain him he loses his fucking mind. A cop tried to put handcuffs on him when we were in college and he punched the cop in the face, took off running across the campus with handcuffs around one wrist, jumped several fences, and got away. He reacts in similar ways any time someone tries to restrain him. Idk why he’s like that, and he doesn’t know either. He said he can’t think about anything except for getting away in those scenarios.

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      1 month ago

      My wife one time tried to playfully pin me and I freaked tf out. I totally get not wanting to be retrained. It feels like suffocation

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      I can completely understand that. There’s a name for that kind of phobia, which I can’t remember right now, but I have the same exact thing. I have a Xanax prescription specifically for when I feel “claustrophobic” (it’s not actually claustrophobia; it’s a fear of being trapped and restrained, but people understand the idea of claustrophobia and I have forgotten the word for phobia of being restrained/unable to move).

      It’s significant enough that I have thought to myself how might I handle it if I am ever handcuffed, particularly with the cuffs behind my back. I would try to explain that I have a terrible phobia of this and I will have a panic attack, but I know that no cop is going to care about that. So I don’t know. Not much else you can do but flee.

      • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        Definitely try to figure it out, because like you said, the cops don’t give a fuck. If you freak out then they’ll hog tie you, which makes it even worse.