• blame [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      3 months ago

      You can change things you dont like about your life as an adult. Not everything of course we still have to pay rent and eat and shit (on the landlords doorstep). But if you were a weird teenager you dont have to be a weird adult. You can go to the gym and therapy and get a girlfriend or a boyfriend or a gundam.

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        3 months ago

        I think I understand a little. Like the muscle memory would’ve already been instilled and gains already made, knowledge already had. I didn’t do sports besides recess or p.e. but that was only because I never had transportation (and had a mother who was struggling to deal with it all and her traumas). Would’ve been great. Now my gains are only for the swoletariat.

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          3 months ago

          i dont think thats necessarily true, i did sports growing up as a kid and was very uncoordinated despite playing competitive sports year round until i was about 16, which is basically when you age out of a lot of youth sports if you’re not good enough to carry on into competitive jr and adult leagues. So that being said my gains are also only for the swoletariat. solidarity

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          3 months ago

          As someone who fits in but used to be an outcast, I can assure you, fitting in isn’t about having mainstream hobbies, but proactively talking to people.

          I still find going up to people and talking to them to be kind of scary, so the method I used was to join a college association I was interested in.

          As for your hobbies, there is nothing wrong with having obscure hobbies, in fact, it makes for a great conversation topic. And unless your hobby is really out there, you could probably find a group that enjoys your hobby.

          Of course, this assumes you have access to such spaces, which is not true for everyone.