• li10@feddit.uk
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    1 year ago

    “Parents take you to a psychologist”

    Can’t relate to that bit, my mother refused to even take me to the opticians because she insisted there was nothing wrong with me.

    These days she thinks I’m making the ADHD stuff up, and occasionally asks me why I don’t just take off my glasses for a while…

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      Sorry dude that sounds rough.

      I was thankfully provided transport, but I was also subjected to a long lecture on why I “don’t want to be on medication”.

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        I can relate to that, they’re suddenly experts on a condition that they don’t understand and the medication to treat it.

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      But why would my parents take me to a doctor when my mom does all the same stuff?

      “It’s normal.” …uh, no. Mom had undisagnosed ADHD.

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      Can I ask how well you now look after yourself as an adult? Cause I grew up similarly and have huge issues caring for myself, it’s like I can’t identify what is good for me

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        It’s quite difficult, I was told a lot that I just need to get on with stuff and the response was “it’s not a problem” to any issues.

        I once had a bad infection on my leg and just ignored it until people at work said I needed to speak to someone. Eventually I ended up at the hospital, the doctor was quite surprised at how bad I’d let it get, and was even more shocked when I said I was going back to work after 😂

        She basically said that there’s no way I should be going back to work, and said I needed to take a few days off and take antibiotics. My mum said it wasn’t that bad…

        I also registered with a dentist for the first time in 10 years recently, and had a load of fillings done. My mum kept telling me I didn’t need them unless my teeth hurt (they did, but she ignored me saying that), and that the dentist was just trying to rip me off, despite them showing me pictures of the decay on some teeth.

        All I can really say is that it’s best to book appointments for any issues, and then gauge whether it’s something that you should have just been putting up with based on the doctor/professional’s advice. Then eventually you’ll get some kind of rational basis for what needs to be sorted and what you should be putting up with.