This was suggested to me by @[email protected].

  • I’m a late teen (17). I got an autism diagnosis (which still causes more problems, than good) when I was three years old.
  • You already know a lot about autism (since most of you are autistic), so you don’t need any explanation (even if it’s a spectrum).
  • Now let’s explain why I think I’m a narcissist: When I entered high school a few years ago, I started feeling superior to my schoolmates. At first I felt, this was justified, as I have way better grades than my schoolmates (and had a way higher admission score (or whatever it’s called) than others), but later I realized, it was unjustified, as even if I’m smarter, than everyone, I have other challenges (executive function, procrastination of anything related to communication). That wouldn’t be anything weird, but even after that realization, I just can’t grasp the fact my schoolmates aren’t stupid and useless. AMA

PS:I know it’s a way too long post and doesn’t belong here, but it is what it is.

  • iamdisillusioned@lemmy.world
    4·
    13 hours ago

    I don’t think you’ve got a good grasp on what narcissism is. There’s the official diagnosis and the layperson definition and both require externalization. You can’t just think you’re better, you’d feel in your soul that you were better and would use and abuse those around you. Thinking people are worthless is another indicator that you aren’t. If you were one, you’d see the value in those idiots because of how easy they are to exploit.

    • Persen@lemmy.worldOP
      0·
      13 hours ago

      You’re probably right. This may just be social isolation. The sign of narcissism might be, that I only make friends with people, whose help I could rely on.

  • frogfruit@slrpnk.net
    4·
    1 day ago

    I’m not sure this is actually narcissism. I felt very similar throughout my teens, but it is something I grew out of in my early/mid 20s. I think there are a few reasons for this. Often, people just grow out of it, through brain development or just spending more time around other people. Empathy can also be intentionally strengthened like a muscle.

    I studied psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, and logic to understand the general human mind. When you study a lot of things, you learn how little you know. You also get to see how much better other people are at certain things. I no longer assume I’m smarter than anyone else even if it’s obvious in one particular subject or several subjects, because they are probably smarter than me in other ways.

    I also saw a therapist and spent more time around other people. I made an effort to understand others’ points of view, asking questions if needed, and really tried to imagine their life experiences and how they could come to feel or believe certain things. This will be an exercise at first but it eventually comes naturally for the most part.

  • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world
    91·
    2 days ago

    I am not on the spectrum (I follow the community because I have 2 kids on the spectrum). I did, however, go to high school and also thought I was smarter than everyone else. I was probably smarter than some people. But as I’ve grown up, my perspective has shifted: (1) smarts are genetic, like being pretty, and both are like winning the genetic lottery. In contrast, people who work hard have earned it. (2) Being academically gifted does not always translate into success later in life. EQ, hard work and luck also play into it. Anywho, I thought I would pass that along because I’m not so sure you are a narcissist, but maybe just haven’t had as much experience. Best of luck to you!

    • oracle@lemmy.world
      2·
      2 days ago

      To add to this, here is a rough explanation of why “average” people still exist.

      If you take every job in the world, and group them up, you’re gonna get significantly more maintenance type jobs, time-gated jobs, tetris type jobs, and basically every job that requires about 2 brain cells to perform perfectly, than any job that actually requires critical thinking.

      So we can either take you, the smartest meat popsicle man on the planet, and make you stand there and hold a stop sign in the middle of traffic in 100F/38C weather for 10 hours straight six days a week,

      OR

      we can give that job to somebody else and have you design highway interchanges.

      Take your pick.

    • Persen@lemmy.worldOP
      22·
      2 days ago

      That might be true, as I haven’t manipulated a lot of people (I just do it if I feel in danger). I don’t fake being victimized to manipulate people, I actually feel like a victim in multiple situations.