(Content warning, discussions of SA and misogyny, mods I might mention politics a bit but I hope this can be taken outside the context of politics and understood as a discussion of basic human decency)
We all know how awful Reddit was when a user mentioned their gender. Immediate harassment, DMs, etc. It’s probably improved over the years? But still awful.
Until recently, Lemmy was the most progressive and supportive of basic human dignity of communities I had ever followed. I have always known this was a majority male platform, but I have been relatively pleased to see that positive expressions of masculinity have won out.
All of that changed with the recent “bear vs man” debacle. I saw women get shouted down just for expressing their stories of being sexually abused, repeatedly harassed, dogpiled, and brigaded with downvotes. Some of them held their ground, for which I am proud of them, but others I saw driven to delete their entire accounts, presumably not to return.
And I get it. The bear thing is controversial; we can all agree on this. But that should never have resulted in this level of toxicity!
I am hoping by making this post I can kind of bring awareness to this weakness, so that we can learn and grow as a community. We need to hold one another accountable for this, or the gender gap on this site is just going to get worse.
We just lurk and look at memes and then go socialize elsewhere. It’s not worth the emotional energy to engage with so many males on this platform.
I used to participate in Lemmy after I left Reddit, but migrated to another place. This is one of the rare times I am actually choosing to comment on Lemmy.
Thank you for sharing
is it that bad? is there something that can be done about it?
Report harassing comments. Mods remove harassing comments. Each user can block individuals who are trolls - if they don’t get engagements (positive or negative), their comments won’t float up the feed and they won’t be encouraged to continue being a dick. Validate women’s experiences even if it isn’t your own personal experience. Realize that when you are engaging with women about their personal experiences, it’s not the same as arguing over a topic in tech.