bumpusoot [any]

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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • I do agree with this general sentiment, I’ve been in a cursed, abusive relationship and cheated on them (though not to the point of sex) because at the time I was being quite explicitly threatened and coerced into staying in that relationship. If I had been found out, it would not have looked pretty; OTOH cheating like that was a major step in giving me the confidence to leave.

    I have no idea what the woman’s circumstances were, but I agree they could’ve been very complicated and not as black/white as it seems.

    At the same time, I also don’t think it’s fair to claim her lies didn’t hurt the OP, and I don’t think OP is a bad person. I wouldn’t have blamed the other person if it had happened in my circumstances. I can 100% understand why a person might cheat (obviously, as I’ve done it), but if you betray a person’s trust, especially the one who actually hasn’t wronged you at all, then it’s not unfair or unreasonable for them to react negatively, nor to assume the other person should find out too.

    Personally, I’d do the same as you. But it is an understandably murky moral sea, and I’m not sure any answers are 100% right. Not confronting it there and then could mean OP just gets lied to more.












  • Source missing from that post, but it’s from the Pew Research Center.

    I couldn’t find any justification for their picking those countries (maybe they’re the only countries that let the Pew Research Center establish any presence). And their methodology seems to suffer similar biases these kinds of wide opinion polls typically do (e.g. if you don’t answer the phone or agree to talk to weird strangers you’re not counted), which typically skew towards older conservatives who are sitting at home. Sample sizes also leave a lot to be desired.

    Not to say this data is entirely inaccurate, but as with like 90% of these studies, they leave so much statistically uncertain that it’s borderline meaningless.





  • In spite of the public figures and reputation, I’d argue the UK is honestly fairly trans-friendly as a culture IME. In decades of knowing and seeing trans people out, as well not always dressing to my own supposed gender. I’ve never seen anyone have a hard time for it anywhere (I’m sure it happens, but clearly not that frequently).

    It’s still a crumbling fascistic country in decline, but not really any more so than all of the fucking west. I’d still rather be here than the USA. Downside is citizenship gets you access to butt nowhere else, whereas EU gets you access to all the EU.