cross-posted from: https://slrpnk.net/post/1882948
Insightful text on relationship anarchy with a focus on an asexual and/or aromantic perspective
What relationship anarchy hinges on the most, for me, is the equality it seeks to create across the relationship board, so that sexual relationships are not superior to nonsexual relationships and “romantic” relationships are not superior to nonromantic friendships, and that equality means that a nonsexual and/or nonromantic friend has the same amount of access to love, intimacy, physical affection, support, etc.
If this is what you want, do it and make clear to everyone that that is what you are doing. The problem is when people decide this is the one true way to nonmonogamy, which ime, happens quite a lot. I like my hierarchy out where I can see it, thanks.
Interesting concept.
The core idea of relationship equality regardless of sexual interaction/social expectations is a nice idea.
I wonder how practical this is in real life though.
Hierarchical relationships serve a practical purpose, they reduce cognitive burden, it’s difficult to not prioritise one person over the other.
There are people that do it and thrive. The author seems really happy with it.
For some there might be a lot of self reflection necessary to actually live like that.
And maybe for others this might not be desirable at all.
Hierarchical relationships serve a practical purpose, they reduce cognitive burden, it’s difficult to not prioritise one person over the other.
Hmm atleast the authors does not think that individual relationships cant be prioritized over others. Like you would still choose with eho you prefer to do what, like living or going on vacations.
To me the author puts more weight on the rejection of classical relationship archetypes and their hierarchization
Removed by mod
They also used to call someone with ADHD or ASD or some other disorder “being a little shit”, but language has always been a work in progress.
So its obvious you did no read the text at all before commenting. The author talks in lengths about how this concept works great for folks who dont want sex at all.