• Lvxferre [he/him]@mander.xyz
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    1 month ago

    My neighbour is almost 60 and she still lives with her mum! (And when she married the husband moved with them.)

    I think that it’s fine to still live with family. As long as nobody is a leech or a control freak.

    • burgersc12@mander.xyz
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      1 month ago

      I think the only reason this is a thing is because houses are prohibitively expensive for about 60% of the population right now. So your options are

      1. rent
      2. wait until your parents are gone and take their house

      Most people are much better off with a house from their parents than paying some rich douches mortgage for them.

      • Lvxferre [he/him]@mander.xyz
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        1 month ago

        I forgot to mention, this is in South America. As far as I know, cross-gen households used to be the norm here, and mortgaging your home isn’t common, because there’s simply less social pressure to leave your parents’ home if you can’t afford a house.

        • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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          30 days ago

          And historically, that was expected and normal, and having your own place was unusual. The oldest usually took care of the parents and the rest moved out. That’s SL still very much a thing in Korea, a very developed country where people could probably afford to live separately.

  • Freefall@lemmy.world
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    30 days ago

    People don’t understand soldiers. You get discipline, confidence, structure, and community, but it is just a job done by normal people. I know door kickers that are just chill normal folks and one that refuses to own a gun. I know a Ranger that worked against governments and trained people to rise up against their oppressors, that fell for trump (and I miss that dude a lot, he is genuinely a good guy and was a hero of mine until he went MAGA…he fell for the deception and I couldn’t pull him out. I get real bad “left a man behind” in the pit of my stomach when I bring him up…fuck.). I know an MP woman, that was in and active for 10 years, that is an adorable little goth chick that works at the local hippy co-op store.

    If you work around people, especially a factory or blue collar job, look around, those are soldiers. Dumb ones, lazy ones, ones that should be doing something great but aren’t. it is a little less equivalent when it comes to combat roles, but you still have a spread, it isn’t like the fantasy portrays.

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      29 days ago

      Its just a regular job where you are trained to kill other people.

      If it wasn’t condoned by the government, they would be considered trained murderers.

      Oh, but it is to fight the trained murderers of other nations!

      So they are the solution to a problem they cause themselves.

      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        24 days ago

        Its just a regular job where you are trained to kill other people.

        listen bro, animals kill animals all the time, animals fight over territory, the military is just a mechanized extension of that, idk what you want me to tell you, but this is literally just the natural consequence of the industrial revolution.

        At least now we aren’t killing millions of people, only hundreds of thousands.

        Also, this is falling under what i like the call the “ravine fallacy” where it only takes one person falling into a ravine for everybody to get completely fucked.

  • gmtom@lemmy.world
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    30 days ago

    Harley Quin r34 is generally pretty good quality honestly, and other than the fact fetish stuff it’s fairly normal as far as r34 goes. So don’t be so hard on yourself there are much more degenerate things you could be jorkin it to.